Some kids allowed at adults only wedding??

I am having 3 little cousins (all will be under 11) and they are the only kids allowed at the reception because they are in the wedding.

Nope, it's right as rain.

Melissa is right, bridal party children are the exception. You can also invite children in social circles. As in, you invite all your nieces and nephews but no other kids, etc.

You're fine. It would be rude to send those children home. All bridal party children have to be invited to the reception, or else it looks like you're just using them for props.

If anyone gets offended, that's on them. Not your problem.

ETA: make sure you also invite the siblings of bridal party children as it's not cool to split up siblings if they're minors. So if your 6-year-old flower girl has an 8-year-old brother, both should be invited even if the brother wasn't in the wedding.

Elizabeth I definitely did that! my fiancé has a ton of nieces and one nephew. he is only close to his sisters 3 kids. the sisters are both too old to be flower girls so they will have special jobs so all three of the siblings are included. the oldest will be pulling her 2 year old brother in a wagon. he will have a bubble gun. and the middle daughter will walk down the aisle right before me holding a sign that says "uncle Bryce, here comes your bride." then the other set of siblings in it are my nieces. one is the flower girl. her little sister will only be about 8 months old at the time so she will sit in the wagon with my fiancés nephew who will have the bubbles. I had to get a little creative with ways to include all of the kids! haha hopefully it all looks cute!

However, my main concern when posting this was my fiancés older brother. He can be very irrational and gets upset easily... he has 4 kids of his own and im worried that after I tell them no kids (which could piss them off) and then they find out his sisters kids are in it they will totally freak out and even threaten not to come.... my future in laws have already warned me to be prepared for that possible outcome.... I would hate for them to not show up or have an issue with us...

Kids in the bridal party are an exception, and so are immediate family, and it sounds like these kids are both. You're fine just inviting them.

Eek I can see your issue. How many kids would it add if you let all nephews and nieces (but no other kids) come to the wedding?

I'm glad this was asked. I was wondering the same. We're having my daughter, my niece and his niece and nephew and that's it. Feel relieved knowing it's not rude

We invited in circles. My nephews will be at the wedding (and escorting my mom and sister into the ceremony). FH's cousins are all bringing their kids. I don't have any cousins with kids coming - so that's where we drew our line. It turned out to be 10 children.

We are having adults only with the exception of "ring bearer" and "flower girl" who are FH's nieces (ages 7 and 11).

That is just fine. Leave it as is.

We are only inviting our neice and nephews (although two nephews won't be coming , 2 and 9 months) and the neice and newphew will be 5 but my sister is my MOH. and I also have a 13 year old brother which FH mom thinks that their cousins will be mad because their son is the same age. But we are standing firm and it's my brother - but I also just don't feel bad about it.

Don't send the kids in the party home for the reception. Other than that it's totally fine bc they're in the bridal party. I'm doing the same exact thing. My nephews are the only little kids invited bc they're in the party. I'm having 16 and older only because I had to fulfill my minimum at the venue hahaha

Im in a similiar situation, my venue counts children 2 and up so if everyone brought their kid it triples my head count and I have 60 couples and almost half have kids. Some are very close but I cant afford to feed everyones kids-how do I word it so I dont offend on my rsvp for those who cant or dont see my wedding website?