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Just Said Yes October 2015

Some Family Members Want Me to Move the Wedding Date... But I Don't Want To!

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Briana, on April 21, 2015 at 3:39 AM

My fiancé and I have discussed getting married since fall of last year; he proposed this March and we decided on this October 17th for our wedding. This day would be perfect because it lets us get our own place before the holidays, is close to our original anniversary, is the anniversary of my grandparents, and is my favorite month. However, this date is about 6 months away and coincides with a long trip through Europe that one of my cousins has been planning since the beginning of the year. Two of my aunts want me to reschedule until next spring so my cousin, and a few out of state relatives can attend.

I'm not purposefully trying to exclude anyone from the wedding, and although I'd like those relatives to attend, I'm not close to them. However, my family is making me feel like I'm irrational and selfish. I feel bad the 17th won't work for some people, but that date really works with our schedule and is special to us.

Are we in the wrong?

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VIP June 2015
Breanna · on April 21, 2015 at 2:03 PM
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Stick with it. If you're not close to them who cares if they aren't there? The date is important to you, as it should be, keep it.
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MissShandi · on April 21, 2015 at 2:21 PM
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I had this same issue a couple of weeks ago! FH's parents wanted the date moved for convenience - it's over a year away! It's your day. Don't change it for anyone else.
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Expert May 2015
Amy · on April 21, 2015 at 2:29 PM
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Stick to your original date. There is no way on earth that you're going to be able to please everyone. And as RhnCasi419 said, even if you DO go out of your way to accommodate someone, they STILL may end up not being able to attend due to unforeseen circumstances. You have to do what feels right for your and your FH. The other thing is, if you start letting others dictate the details of your wedding, you're going to have a terrible time planning because you're going to be trying to please everyone except yourselves - then it won't be your wedding, but a conglomeration of everyone else's expectations of what your wedding should be. Stick to your guns, sister. Make YOUR wedding special to you.
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Master October 2015
OG Ruth · on April 21, 2015 at 2:30 PM
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If that's the date you really want, don't change it.
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VIP June 2015
C & K · on April 21, 2015 at 2:35 PM
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I agree with everyone. Don't change the date to please someone else, especially if you're not that close with them. I had to change my date twice for two very important people in my life. The first time, I changed my date (one year later) for my brother because he got transferred to Korea for a year. We are very close, so it's very important that he can be here for me, especially when he's walking me down the aisle. The second time I changed the date was for my matron of honor (our kids' godmother) because her niece whom she adopted is graduating high school on the same day. Luckily, our venue was very accommodating and had an opening two weeks later. So stick to your guns. Get married on the day you want, because it obviously means more to you.
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