Solo trip before wedding?

View Quoted Comment Yeah, it is interesting because there is no tone, and everyone interprets things differently. But that comment is from the same post that asked if you live your whole life like that. So again, I understand your response to that specific post, but I thought your statement of being unhelpful/unnecessary was to all of the posts. That is why I thought you were looking for a specific response because I thought you were saying all were unhelpful.

View Quoted Comment What’s fascinating is that I could guarantee that in-person conversation between strangers would go differently. You also gave a good example of typical internet behaviors. I stated that the conversation is taking an unhelpful tone. That means it started well then started changing to a tone that I personally don’t enjoy. You read my comment and within a few minute responded with an inflammatory statement. Gosh I wish people were nicer to each other.

View Quoted Comment You taking my response as inflammatory proves my point that tone is difficult to understand through text. Good luck with your future spouses trip. I hope it goes well.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the well-wishes. I’m not sure what the right answer is and I hope all goes well as well.

Truthfully, it looks suspicious, here’s why. At the crucial moment when everything needs to be finalized, why would one of the main people not be there? It honestly looks like a testing period to see what you will and will not tolerate. It’s like if you’re okay with this now, you’ll be okay with it overall and that’s not a good foundation to begin your marriage. It can potentially breed mistrust and insecurity within you and cause a seed of contempt in him towards you because you’re expressing your disagreement later, but did not express it before the marriage. Or I could be completely wrong; but consider if I’m not wrong. At what cost are you willing to take the chance of beginning your marriage on shaky ground? Go with your gut, girl, your success rate is too high to ignore it.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Michael. A little suspect but more...

There’s no way that would be ok with me or hubby for several reasons, mostly practical: what if gets travel bug/illness, misses flight, comes back exhausted? It’s also not fair to leave person at home to wrap up loose ends before wedding. Too stressful.

A month before the wedding? Fine. To be gone 1-2 weeks before wedding and barely get back in time? Nope.

I wouldn't do it, it seems way too stressful.

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It being El Salvador worries me. Or anywhere out of the country really. Honestly, I would be worried too. My FH has to fly to Arizona to pick up his daughter and fly back with her two days before and I'm worried about him having enough time as it is.

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Yeah, after reading all the little details, I would be concerned too. I hadn't thought about hiccups/delays with the actual travel, until you mentioned that. But it's a real thing. There's no way he could come back a couple of days sooner? Cut it short because he's getting married? Just a thought. I understand it may not be possible.

View Quoted Comment Hi. Thanks for the response. We compromised and decided on a 1 week trip with a return date that is 7 days before the wedding. Of course I’d like him to not go at all haha but I suppose compromising is the right thing to do sigh. I’ll just cross my fingers that he doesn’t get sick or lose his passport.