Soft drinks?

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Expecting to be properly hosted doesn’t make you shallow.

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Oh I completely agree with you.

I was talking to my FH about this and we agreed that if we showed up to a wedding like this where it was a cash bar and I had to buy my own soda we would likely be taking money from the card to pay for it.

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This. 100% this.

View Quoted Comment Sorry you’re having to deal with this. I learned to hard way people on this website hate you for not serving alcohol too. We don’t drink and to me it’s obvious not to expect alcohol. I wouldn’t go to a Vegan or Vegitarians wedding and expect a roasted hog, but that’s just me. In the end, YOU know YOUR guest better than anyone. In my opinion anyone who would hate you for not giving them free alcohol on a day that you we nice enough to ask them to attend shouldn’t be there. If they are coming for free booze they are there for the wrong reasons. People on here make up weird reasons for “needing” to have it.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t realize people were this crazy about an event they are not paying for or are going to. I understand the soda issue. But most people are concerned more about the cash bar. And yes I know my guests wouldn’t be this uptight about it. Even if I didn’t have soda they wouldn’t act like this. My guests aren’t like that, they are there for us and whatever comes with the event is an additional piece to celebrating with us. If they want to be hateful about not having alcohol then they can leave. We will be just fine without them there...Thanks for the advice!

View Quoted Comment There are actually a lot of comments referring to the cash bar

View Quoted Comment I don’t go to weddings expecting to be served certain things. I’m grateful to be invited. But everyone is different.

View Quoted Comment And like I said before you all have more of an issue than my guests will...

Why ask if you're going to get defensive and not be open to honest feedback? If you wanted a bunch of people tell you what you want to hear, you came to the wrong place.

I hate to be the bearer of previously delivered bad news but as much as YOU seem to think " my guests wont care. They actually care about us" They will. No, they will not be rude and tell their dear loved one they are a poor host but trust me they will speak about it amongst each other.

You asked internet strangers who are not attending or paying for your wedding what we think. And this is what we think : It is very poor hosting to not serve (at minimum) FREE beer and wine. It is ABSURD to charge your guests for soft drinks.

View Quoted Comment Why continue to repeat what 10 other people have said🤔🤔 why continue to stalk my post.??

View Quoted Comment I guess I’ll be a poor and absurd host 🤷🏾‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Nobody is being “hateful.” Will your guests hate you because you charge for soda or other drinks? No. Will they think to themselves that you’re being cheap and expecting them to subsidize your completely optional party? Yes. Will they wish that you had cut favors or programs or bought a cheaper dress or whatever so they didn’t have to pay for soda? Yes. Will they say anything to you? Absolutely not. It’s perfectly within your rights to not care about what your guests will think. PPs are just pointing out that at least some of your guests will think that.

I’m gonna try to answer your question since a lot of people rather insult you in one way or another. I would go ahead and go with the soft drinks. I doubt many people will straight up waste them. If you’re not sure how many people would want them, I suggest reaching out and asking a few of the people you’re inviting. I’m a really big Dr. Pepper drinker so I may be a bit biased. It would also give a bit more of a variety as (even in the south) not everyone drinks tea and coffee. Lemonade would probably be a bigger hit with kids. What time of day is your wedding? If it’s around (or before) noon, I see more people leaning to choosing coffee.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for answering the original question. My wedding is at night. I am just trying to be cost effective and I can work on adding soda into the budget, but considering many people may drink water, tea, and coffee it may not be too expensive.

People are just trying to tell you that cash bars(and not serving alcohol) come off a bit rude to guests. Weddings cost a lot of money but if there is one thing to splurge on it is food and drinks for your guests. If I had to pay for travel fair, a dress, shoes, and possible a hotel for someone’s wedding I would expect them to be a gracious host and not have a cash bar. So if you really feel like it is okay to treat your guests as so, then you should provide soda and alcohol so they at least get to chose what they’re paying for. (And are you really charging for water or is it free)

View Quoted Comment That makes sense. We have a few diabetics in our families who I know are extremely careful about sugar intake (and others who think Splenda is a god.) So, I’m having to cator to those people as well. I would just reach out to see who might want what. Good luck!!!

View Quoted Comment I’m not charging for water....

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advice!!