Socially awkward wedding photographer

The chemistry between you and your photographer is very important. If you aren't comfortable around them and aren't a professional model then you will look awkward in the photos. The photographer is the one vendor you spend the most time with, you need to make sure you will have fun with them. I'd definitely take personality into consideration.

I agree with Happy in Hawaii! The ease you feel with your photographer will be noticeable in your photos. Best if you can find the combo of talent/style and personality that fits you.

Agreed with the above. We also met with a socially awkward photographer who took beautiful pics. In the end, we just couldn't get past the fact that we felt uncomfortable around him. (Also, he was crazy expensive) So we booked the photographers we loved, because they immediately felt like old friends to us. And it was a great decision, because they were wonderful to work with on our wedding day, and they took amazing pics!

If you feel awkward in the meeting with him, it's only going to be worse on wedding day.

If you're the outgoing, "I love to be in every picture" type of person and don't need a lot of direction on wedding day, maybe it won't matter and you'll do all the work to get the pictures perfect, BUT is that really what you want on wedding day?

You deserve to find someone you "mesh" with, and something feels off, keep looking. There are SO many photographers out there - you'll find the one you want. This guy might be perfect for a different couple, but it doesn't sound like it's right for you guys. My bet is that you'll find someone with a similar style but a better personality fit if you keep meeting with other photographers.

Agreed with the above. My photographer is amazing- she reaches out to contact, has great ideas, is beyond enthusiastic about her work (and our wedding/engagement photos) and she is incredibly easy to talk to. When I first met with her, it was only minutes into the conversations and I though she was the one we'd go with. I did interview another photographer afterwards, but there was no comparison.

As in all relationships, whether personal or professional- communication is key!

It sounds as though he may have asperger's. It's a form of Autism. My nephew also has asperger's. People with asperger's are usually very detail oriented and very smart. However they have problems socially. I would definitely hire the photographers.... I would assume you would get awesome photos out of it!

Wow.. the comments from this is making me want to cry... for my nephew who will, likely be the same way when he grows-up and gets a job! People not wanting to hire him because he's "socially awkward".

Maybe he just needs to get to know you guys a little better or he was just having a rough day. I'd take your time finding a photographer because the photos will be priceless.

You may not be the only person who has felt that way about that photographer, so if I were you, I'd try to see if he can give you any referrals. People you can sort of feel out and see how they dealt with the awkwardness with him, or if it dissipated as time went on.

@ Angie- I wasn't in any way, shape, or form trying to be mean about the situation. And I apologize if I offended you with my comment.

The photographer is the person who records/captures your day & leaves you with the photos as reminders of your wedding day. I feel that if there isn't communication/a connection between the photographer & couple the day may not be captured in the light that it should be.

I understand. People with autism has trouble communicating, however, they usually understand everything and are, like i said, very detail oriented. You could always do engagement photos and see how they turn out. I may be bias because I'm used to "Socially awkward" people. In fact my nephew's step-mom is a photographer.... she is very sociable, however her pictures SUCK! I wouldn't let her take pictures of my ROCK. I agree most of the time communication is key, however, I'd at least give the guy a chance because his pictures are very good. Also getting references is a great idea. Or google him, see if he has any reviews!

That being said, I would also meet with other photographers in the area... I would check out multiples of any services/venues! You can't compare any until you have met with more than 1.

I think it is a bit of a jump to assume he has Asperger's Syndrome based on the small paragraph provided. I have to agree with most people on here-- chemistry with my photographer was very important and was the reason I chose mine over others' whose pictures I also liked. He may be new at giving sales pitches or may just not have mastered the skill yet. I am actually one of those people who comes off as socially awkward in situations that make me nervous. It is also possible that your personalities just don't "click." Good luck I'm sure the right photographer is out there for you!

You're with the photographer your ENTIRE wedding day. You need to find someone that you can work with. If he's just so socially awkward that it's making you feel awkward, it's probably time to keep searching. You'll already be nervous on your wedding day... My photographers said "Our job is to relieve the stress and make you smile". I hired them

This one is tough. You are going to spend 8+ hours with this person, so you need to like them. We chose our photographer because, in addition to loving her pictures, we also can just hang out with her as if she's a friend. We're comfortable with her. I have turned down two photographers solely because I couldn't even talk with them for 5 minutes without wanting to leave because I didn't like them. But maybe this person will feel more comfortable in a wedding format and just feel awkward elsewhere, where he can't just hide behind the camera in the background.

Fun fact: We NEVER met our photog before we hired her. Still waiting on pro photos but she was super cool in person. I guess to me it didn't matter as much. The most direction she gave was "put your chin down", "look at him", "look at her", "now kiss", "hold hands". Super easy.

Look around. There are a million photographers and you'll spend 8 or more hours with him.

If I felt our photographer was awkward with anything I would have passed on her immediately. The lady we went with is extremely outgoing and personable. This was important to me because she can chum it up with guests that she does not know and get great photos. If your photographer is not outgoing that may be a sign that they will avoid people, will not ask for people to get together for a group photo, come to you constantly to ask questions about what needs to be photographed. I met with two bad photographers - one was "socially awkward" and the other was very scatterbrained and they were absolute "no's" based on how they interacted with me.

We also met with a few photographers who were "socially awkward" and that was because they were snotty hipsters who wanted to do "their own thing" without regard for what we would want. We passed on them as well.

Can you ask to get references from him and speak with couples whose weddings he photographed? Maybe he loosens up when he's doing what he loves.

Just because the guy is weird doesn't mean he's got Asperger's lol. Either way, chemistry is important. But if his pictures are awesome, why would you think yours wouldn't come out the same? Maybe you can do an engagement photo shoot to test him out beforehand to see if it works.

My brother has Asperger's and it is possible this guy might. We met with another photographer last night and there was a huge difference in the interaction and found we were having a lot of fun with them. Unfotuntely, despite his talent I think we will end up going with someone else since we will be spending the whole day with him around and want it to be fun and comfortable as I'm shy in front of a camera.