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Alforev
VIP August 2018

Social Media Announcement?

Alforev, on July 25, 2017 at 6:41 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

So it seems like a girl on my Facebook just announced that she's been married for sixth months. Apparently, her and her husband had eloped and told no one, not even family. I wish I was kidding but it seems like this Facebook post was how everyone - including her family - found out that she was...

So it seems like a girl on my Facebook just announced that she's been married for sixth months. Apparently, her and her husband had eloped and told no one, not even family. I wish I was kidding but it seems like this Facebook post was how everyone - including her family - found out that she was married. Kinda weird. I just figured I'd share to say it's probably not a good idea to do that. It seems like she's going to be facing a lot of drama for this.

Eloping is one thing, definitely a choice all are welcome to make. It's just not wise to notify your family months later on Facebook as you're also telling your friends who should mean little in comparison to your family.

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  • FutureMrsN
    Super October 2018
    FutureMrsN ·
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    Wow, my parents would not be ok with that

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  • RZ_ToBe
    Master July 2018
    RZ_ToBe ·
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    My sister eloped and my family didn't bother to tell me until a few weeks later when I asked about her wedding. Similar deal to her engagement in the first place. My sister and I aren't close, but it pissed me off that she couldn't even text me, yet I Skyped her to announce my engagement to her the day after. So I can understand your friends family and friends. It's a welcome idea to elope, but seriously! Don't announce it MONTHS after.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes December 2018
    Jaelynn ·
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    That does make sense though, because it shouldn't matter the timing as long as the right people know. How did you announce on fb if you don't mind sharing? Smiley smile I'm wondering what wordage was used to not offend anyone and not to tick off any unwelcome nosy comments? We are thinking about a small wedding, less than 10 people invited and I'm getting anxiety thinking about how to break the news on social media, any advice on how to post would be so very appreciated
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  • Bride2020
    Devoted May 2020
    Bride2020 ·
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    I guess its the time frame? Maybe generation/area as well? If I was close enough with someone that they were like, my bridesmaid level closeness and they eloped and I heard about it online, I'd probably be a little sad it wasn't a phone call for sure. But anyone else, even if I considered them a close friend, I'd have no troubles. People are close to other people, I'm not at the top of everyones list. As long as you tell who matters to you first, what's the big deal?
    I don't see the time frame as an issue either, if they are the type to elope I doubt their facebook is updated often. Sounds like the couple OP is talking about didn't tell anyone for 6 months and then told everyone, even people they're close with, on facebook, which is obviously an issue. But in a normal case, couple elopes, tells friends and family, tells facebook 6 months later, doesn't seem like a big deal.

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