So I think I fired a bridesmaid this morning...*Update in Comments*

I think you made the right decision. And that's the best decision for her and her babies. You never know what can happen with a pregnancy and she shouldn't be travelling that far away. And now you won't have to be stressing about it. Like you said, have someone get on skype during the ceremony (someone who is sitting near the front), put her on mute, and then she can enjoy the ceremony from afar.

Thanks Alison!

Yeah, I feel, well relieved. I was banking on her not coming anyways.

I think my main concern was that we are getting married in a National Forest, which means the closest hospital is 45 minutes away, and there is terrible cell phone reception out there. Selfishly it is one thing I now don't have to worry about!

She wore her bridesmaid dress to a bachelorette party? Wow!! I would be furious!

Yeah...she did. Even posted a picture on FB saying it was her dress for my wedding. This is real life folks.

I think you're right and handled it correctly. Sometimes people don't get how rude they're being by inviting someone, who you don't even know mind you, plus their child. You handled it a lot nicer than I would with a month away to go for your wedding lol!

I think u handled that in a good way

I think you've done everything you could, and you're totally right to refuse her to attend, for many reasons but mostly the most basic: that it would be risky for her and her babies-to-be to be so far from potential medical care, should she go into labor, or have an emergency. With twins in particular, complications can spring up late, and fast.

It does occur to me from everything you said that there could be an element of jealousy in play.... I have a cousin who was my best friend all through childhood, she got really messed up in high school, and has a history of addiction and was diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder as an adult. She got pregnant young, and the father needless to say did not stick around. At her brother's rehearsal dinner, she told everyone she talked to was pregnant again, by a guy who was in jail! Aside from it being awkward and tacky, the bottom line was that she was jealous of his life and his wedding, and it was a very juvenile, very sad way for her to try to get attention.

The other thing I have read is that children who grow up in a chaotic, argumentative home cannot feel at ease when there's calm and peace long-term. If she grew up in a dysfunctional household, she very well may be trying to create chaos, if your parents lives are calm. It's hard to imagine, but I've seen it first-hand with one of my friends, who gets serious anxiety when things at home are fine and normal.

Not only should she be fired, she should be shot at dawn. What a B.

"my main concern was that we are getting married in a National Forest, which means the closest hospital is 45 minutes away,"

I never say this but......OMG!!!!!!!!

you are right, someone needs to be the voice of reason, and it had to be you. 8 months pregnant with 2 babies and she was going to do this after the doctors told her not to?

completely insane. but, pregnancy and multiple babies can do that to you. she's not making good decisions, you did the right thing.

just think of the stories you'll be able to tell these babies when they are older! lol

I wouldn't fee bad about it. I would have reacted the same way. I feel if she really wanted to be in your wedding, she wouldn't have invited a stranger and a baby. Maybe you're right.. and she just wanted you to spare her. Her loss!

Seriously I feel like I've been living in a soap opera.

I didn't even mention that she thought she would be able to make the drive, that would take 25 hours, if she didn't stop at all, in a day and a half. That is with a 6 month old, a 2 year old, and a 7 year old.

It was just getting ridiculous. She was also only going to give herself the day of the wedding as a "rest day" then drive back.

@rachel kay, i'm with you. my half sister has really been a pain for me all my life...and i'm not trying to sound like a bitch but she just has. she is CONSTANTLY fighting with our dad, she is bitter towards EVERYONE in my family, she is ALWAYS complaining, she's NEVER happy...etc, etc. I had told her before that she would be a bridesmaid in my wedding whenever I got engaged. She lives in Arizona though and she is a humongous flake plus she can't really stand anyone in my family (but she pretends she can). She has my whole dads side fooled but I can see who she really is deep down. I didn't make her a bridesmaid and one of my aunts told me if I had she definitely would have been at the wedding, which is not true, and she ended up telling my dad that she's not coming and I am super relieved.

I think even though they are family, sometimes you just have to look out for yourself and what's best for your day. Your sister sounds even nuttier then mine! lol

I'm actually astonished nobody has come in here and said "OMG U DON'T FIRE UR SISTER AS A BRIDESMAID U BITCH!!! SHE IS PREGNANT U ARE SO MEAN" I give you props. I'd want her to stay home, too.

Haha thanks Alyssa...I mean she really is only a step-sister I kid I kid.

I feel like this should be an episode on Jerry Springer.

I can see the headline for the show now: "Pregnant Bridesmaids Fight Back" And your step sister sitting on stage wearing her BM dress complaining about how you won't "accommodate" her.

hahahaha

Hold please. Charged your sister with a felony and your sister is now in jail??? What happened?? That alone would have been enough for me to give her the boot. Totally just being nosy but I want the dets!

In all seriousness tho, a full term twin pregnancy is 36 weeks so she probably would have been taking a HUGE risk if she did come to the wedding. Its for the best.

Haha . Well basically they got in a fight and my sister broke my step sisters tv (again I can't make this stuff up) my step sister turned her in for destruction of property, since she claimed the damage was over $1000, it was a felony. The tv was not worth that much so the charges got lowered. I promised I'm pretty normal!

So she is jail for less than $1000 and won't make your wedding??

I think it's the best decision for her and you, don't feel bad

I think it's the best decision for her and you, don't feel bad