So I got Married legally...........

Hmm.. That's a toughy. What date do YOU want to celebrate?? If your wedding day seems to be something that you would want to celebrate every year then I would do that. If not, just go to the date that you got legally married on. ORR... You can celebrate both!

My parents got married twice (once with a JOP in secret cause my father isn't religious, and then with a priest for my mom's family), and they celebrated the date with they celebrated with the whole family. I would say celebrate the anniversary that means the most to you.

We are getting married through JOP a few days before our wedding but will be using the wedding date as our anniversary date. I see the JOP as a formality but the actual wedding/marriage to be on our wedding date. Our wedding date will be our church wedding

Lol kk now thats an idea We kinda picked 8-7 because its right between both our birthdays so I really wanted that to be our anniversary but my family is saying its supposed to be the day on the license ugh i'm getting frustrated... I think I should be able to do it on the church day also

That stinks! Our priest knows we live together and it hasn't been a problem through all of our prep and we are getting married in the Catholic church. I think you should use whichever one you think holds the most signifigance to you...Which ceremony made you feel more married!

Well most people get their license before the wedding, but no one ever celebrates that anniversary. I would say that since the wedding is the day that you are publicly vowing your love and dedication to each other that should be the day you celebrate. What day will you want to remember and tell your kids about later.. The day you celebrated with your families and said your vows, or the day you signed some papers at the court house?

OHHHH!!!! You are so right KK! I just think its crazy we had to get legally married a month before the wedding I don't see what the point of it is really.

My friend did this for army reasons, and she was married a little over a month before the ceremony. They only celebrate the ceremony date b/c the other one wasn't meaningful at all to them...just getting it done type thing. Sounds bad, but its true. lol

I totally agree. My fiance and I are "making it legal" this week but our wedding ceremony isn't until december. We are going to celebrate our anniversary on the actual ceremony date in december.

We have to do the JOP thing as a formality as well :-/ basically its just to please my side of the family (VERY religious) because we live together.

I say you celebrate BOTH and get/give gifts on both days!!.. but from a religious perspective.. you celebrate the day your union was honored under God..

FS and I eloped in secret last December. We haven't told our friends and family about it because it would hurt them. But we couldn't wait for the wedding. So in December we're going to celebrate our secret day just the two of us. And on our wedding anniversary, we'll celebrate with friends and family and they'll be none the wiser.

I think every couple needs a secret day though. Lol. Maybe not an anniversary, but just a secret day that they celebrate that no one else knows about. =0)

My fiance and I are going to privately celebrate both, lol. But our big anniversary will always be the one where we celebrate with family and friends, not the one where we signed the paper.

In the old days, you weren't married legally, it was just a ceremony - no matter which religion you did or didn't follow. It's only with the tightening of the legal system and such that legal weddings are required. So I don't consider it to be as important.

I am in same shoes as Lily. My Navy FS and I will be married in secret with JOP in December, two months before. We will celebrate the actual wedding date as our anniversity date. I want to marry him in dec to get military processes going. If I wait until Feb, I can't live with him for a while, he is stationed in another side of the country.

I say you should celebrate whichever one you feel like it. If you feel like celebrating both go for it. It doesn't matter to others what day you celebrate it on. It's your wedding. Choose the one you feel is most important.

OMG you just gave me the idea to save $200 off our budget! I think we are going to do that as well! It costs $200 to have the lady come to our site and give us her official thing!! Thank you!

Well that is a sticky question, most churches only accept the day you get married in front of God as your date but to me it would be actual married date

Ok so the way things are going it looks like I have everyone on my side to celebrate the church big wedding