So half my family is boycotting my wedding...

I'm sorry that the person you looked up to as a father is throwing such a tantrum. When step parents divorce they're usually heartbroken that they'll lose the connection they once had with their step children. You've left the door open and he just spit in your face. I'm sorry, he sounds like trash. Walk down the aisle with your mom.

Is there any way you can try talking to him, letting him know numbers are in, things have been paid for and that he has been your father for so long and you were looking forward to having him walk you down the isle, that you have no one else?

I am so sorry you are going through this, I don't know what I would do. I know 'annoyed' would not be how I would be handling it so it seems you are so strong! Continue to rely on your future husband. Everything will work out the way it is meant to be.

That is heartbreaking and I'm so sorry you have to deal with it! It's sad that he can't act like an adult for you, and his family should not be enabling his ridiculous behavior.

They're the ones who are going to have to live with this decision, not you. You just focus on having a kickass day with your FH!

I'm really sorry they are punishing you for their problems. It's so unfair, childish, and to be honest, it's shitty behavior on the part of adults.

I'm really sorry.

I'd send the invitations to your original guest list. Id have a serious, blunt and honest convo with your stepdad. He needs to realize how fucked up this is.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I really hope that if things can calm down a little bit, that your family will change their minds and show up for you on your wedding day.

That's really difficult to deal with. I'm sorry you're being put in this position.

That's unbelievable, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. It's just not right that your stepdad is taking this situation out on you, totally ridiculous. I wish I had advice for you... I would be really upset if it were me.

ETA: Needed to read closer.

Oh wow, I can't believe they are taking things out on you. Did you tell your dad how much it means to you for him to be there? Seriously they should be able to be adults for 1 day. I'm so sorry you've been put in the middle. Hopefully they will change their minds.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. It sucks when family refuses to be around each other. I don't have any advice or anything, but I wish you all the beat in getting through this!

Hopefully your stepdad can realize how much he means to you and that he should put aside the divorce for a night that is so special for you

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this so close to your wedding! Can't they act like the adults they are and both come along with their respective families?! I would try to talk to your dad again or at least let him know how hurt you'll be if he doesn't come.

We recently had a similar situation. But look on the bright side, this will save so much money. If they are that petty then you don't need them anyways. Now you can relocate the money you would be spending on them to other aspects of your wedding.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. This is a really shitty situation and it is terrible that you have to feel the impact of it. I'm really sorry

Thanks guys. Yes, I had this whole conversation with my dad today. I had been suspicious about whether or not everyone was coming when I wasn't getting any RSVPs back from that side of the family when they were the most excited at first.

I did tell my dad it would severely hurt our relationship if he doesn't show up. He told me I should ask my brother to walk me down the aisle.

I know "annoyed" is an odd term, but my stepdad has kind of been a selfish ass as long as I've known him. We had a very rocky relationship until I moved out at 18. I'm 23 now so it's only been about 5 years that we've been on pretty good terms. But according to him, him not coming to my wedding is my mom's fault because she should've stuck it out until July. I don't fault her at all for wanting to leave him at this time because the youngest kid is almost 18.

I'm really just disappointed. I didn't think my wedding would be the time for anyone to take a stand or act childish, especially after a full year of planning. I really don't mean to be whiney but WHY ME??

I'm so sorry this happened to you! I'm proud that you told him how you feel, though!

That really sucks. Honestly with more background, it sounds like you'll be better off without him there. You can ask your mom, someone else close to you OR you could walk on your own which is also beautiful.

That's so sad, and totally not your fault- I'm so sorry. Just Pinterest some ways to fill up large spaces with different table set ups, etc. You will still have a fabulous day. Hugs

That's not whiny at all! Your stepdad sounds like a childish asshole! Blame your mom? Please!

@OP, you have a right to be upset. I'd be devastated. I'd be crying and whining, then I'd be cursing, yelling, probably throwing things, and cursing more. Then, after all that was out of my system, I'd still be sad and mad. It's not your moms responsibility to hold together a failing relationship so your stepdad doesn't go all full dickhead.

He's being an absolute immature childish dickhead. My parents despise eachother (both remarried, been divorced over 15 years) and THEY have miraculously, to my utter surprise, have put their shit aside and are behaving like genuine adults. I am shocked every day, because adulting/getting along wasn't a thing my whole life.

The fact that your stepdad and his family so easily miss the most important day of your life is both horrible and hurtful. My heart goes out to you; this is not your fault. Or your moms. This is petty bullshit. And I want to knock your stepdads lights out for it

I'm so sorry op. Maybe just give it some time to let the dust settle and if he does t come around, talk to him.