Snooped thru future Mil’s cell phone messages.

Absolutely not.

No way. How would you even go about that? Such an intrusion...

Why do you think she's sabotaging your relationship?

I wouldn’t go through her phone. I would just ask her about whatever your issue is...

There's a backstory here... If your relationship with her was fraught before, it won't improve now. What did you find and why did you look in the first place? I feel like this is a recipe for disaster, unless your FS is in no way close to your FMIL, there's no way you can have a healthy relationship with her moving forward, and it may seriously strain that with your FS.

Um, no. If her efforts to meddle are working, you have a fiance problem, not a MIL problem.

NO! I don't even go through my FW's phone even though I could at any time. If there is an issue I think it is best to confront it, not be sneaky and intrusive.

Yeah, I definitely wouldn't do this. I've been with FH for 6 years come October, and the only time I've even went near FMIL's phone is when she wanted to show us something on it. It'd be best to talk to her face to face about whatever concerns you have.

Definitely not! My FH & I don't even go through each other's phones... except if we want to look at pictures from something.

Lol wut?

No, I wouldn't.

No, and how could she sabotage your engagement??? Talk to your FH and don't eat anything she cooks

No. It wouldn't prevent her from doing/saying whatever she wanted to anyway so I don't really see the point of snooping. Literally nothing would get better from doing that.

Why do you feel like she's sabotaging your engagement? As long as your fiance isn't having a change of heart based off of what she says then who cares, she's just making herself look bad.

I wouldn't go through my husband's phone, so I don't see me looking through my mother in law's phone. Plus, if I found my mother in law (or anyone) going through my phone, I'd probably punch her in the face haha so no. If you think your future mother in law is sabotaging your engagement, talk to your fiance about it then he can approach her in person.

I would definitely not do this! She can't sabotage your engagement unless your FI goes along with it. And if your FI is so susceptible to her influence that he'd go along with it, that all by itself would be a red flag for your marriage.

LOL great advice!!

I would absolutely not. I'd tell FH directly that I feel his mother is trying to sabotage our engagement