Small vs Large Wedding?!

Hi all!


We are thinking now about the size of our wedding and are feeling quite torn. We are debating a small wedding with just immediate family and closest friends or a 100 person affair.
I will start by saying am a type A personality that will want to be involved in all aspects of the planning (a bit of a control freak...)but as easily overwhelmed (great combo, right? 🙃). This has made me to romanticize a bit the smaller wedding (knowing that may not actually be the “right” choice for me). I am more of an introvert by definition but definitely social and have lots of friends and family. That being said, here are my pro and con lists:
PRO- more intimate/romantic- less money - less stressful / more relaxed- more hands-on (DIY)- the ability to be more present. This is one of my biggest priorities I think.- more quality time with my nearest and dearest who know me best- feeling more comfortable and open to recite my vows
CON- i have a big family and large friend group and will need to hurt peoples feelings who aren’t invited (I am very sensitive and it would make me feel badly to leave people out!) - I won’t have a big dance party (which are fun!) - that general feeling of love and support in the room (you only get that once, right?!)
Pretty standard pro and con list here, but wondering if those who have been in the same predicament, maybe with similar personalities as me, could let me know what choice they’ve made and their feelings about it thus far?
Thank you! ☺️