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Just Said Yes May 2014

Small Registry: we have too much for our tiny apartment! How to phrase this on our webiste?

Alison, on February 18, 2014 at 9:11 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15

Hi, everyone. Thanks in advance for your input. My fiance and I have been living together for 5 years in NYC. We have too much stuff in our very small apartment, so we're only registering for a few essential items. We just have no room for everything we'd like and we plan to move in a couple years, so we don't want to accumulate really nice, fragile items that might break. Instead, we're hoping people will understand our dilemma and give us money for our honeymoon. We're NOT asking for money though. How should we phrase all of this on the registry page of our website? We've gone back and forth about having a honeymoon registry so people still feel like they're giving us something specific- does this provide an easy solution?

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Latest activity by CoCo, on February 19, 2014 at 10:45 PM
  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    Search "money for honeymoon" over to the right and you will get tons of answers Smiley smile

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  • P
    Devoted June 2023
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    Don't do a honeymoon registry, they are tacky. Just do your small registry. People will get the hint.

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  • S
    Super May 2014
    Soon to be a Mrs! ·
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    We are in a similar situation and just kept our registry small. We have had some people tell us to put more on there but our response is, we just don't have the space for it and are saving to purchase a larger house.

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
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    Keep it small. People will get the hint.

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  • Shannon S.
    Master March 2011
    Shannon S. ·
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    We didn't want gifts for the same reasons, so we put the following language on our website:

    "(Me) and (DH) have three of everything, two people, and a one-bedroom apartment with limited storage. Therefore, while we appreciate your generosity, gifts are not necessary, nor are they expected. Your presence is the greatest present we could ask for on our wedding day."

    Then we had a small registry at Target for the people who just have to buy a physical gift, and some other people gave us money.

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  • Allison
    Savvy October 2014
    Allison ·
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    What if you registered for some storage solution items? But as others have said, small registries help.

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  • Beth
    Expert September 2014
    Beth ·
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    We're in a similar situation where we don't need much and are trying to save for a house. I'm musing over adding something like this to the Registry page of our website:

    "The only gift we request is your presence at our wedding. We are saving for a house and already have everything we need for it. However, we realize that some of you may want to contribute something, so we are registered for only a few items at these places...."

    It tells them that we are saving for a house and implies that we prefer cash without being crass. Also, I agree, don't do a honeymoon registry. I was looking at some of those websites (which are really just a fancy way to ask for cash), and guests have to pay a fee to the website in order to give you money! Someone will send you $20, and $3 of it will go to the website. To me, that's ludicrous and not worth it.

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  • rusticbride
    Master May 2014
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    Is there a parent's house that you can use to store these registry items until you need them in your new home? It's a shame to think that when you do get into your new house, you not only are paying for the house, but you're having to run around/shop for this or that item in order to fill it.

    I'd personally take advantage of this registry opportunity and put things on there that you'd never even consider buying for yourself. Sure, do the basic house hold items, but throw in say a nice set of luggage, or a nice Dyson vacuum, etc. You may regret not having a traditional registry when it comes time to fill up that house that will be one of your biggest investments of a LIFETIME and it will shelter your family for a number of years. Smiley smile

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  • Ms. Pepe
    Devoted March 2014
    Ms. Pepe ·
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    I took everyone's advice and kept the registry small. No one took the hint.

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  • Anisea
    Master July 2014
    Anisea ·
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    Dont say much, BBB lets you return stuff for cash, and if you put like 10 things on there theyll get the hint

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  • ConTessa
    Savvy May 2014
    ConTessa ·
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    The best way to let your guests know that you'd prefer cash is word of mouth. Tell your parents and have them spread the word to family and friends. You'll still have some people that will insist on buying you a tangible gift, but it'll save you from the awkward wording on your website or invitation.

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  • P
    VIP July 2014
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    We have a small registry too and a honeyfund. We wrote that we already combined two houses into one and already have duplicates and limited storage space. Our preferred gift are contributions to our honeymoon fund so that our first vacation together will be memorable.

    We have around 40 items in our amazon registry, most are untraditional- a beer pong table, a generator, tools, cards against humanity, a tailgate tent, dog toys. I wasnt about to register for things I dont want or need.

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  • Kat
    VIP September 2014
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    *sigh*

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  • P
    VIP July 2014
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    Don't worry about the fees for the honeyfund, sure straight cash would be better, but your sales tax is what.. 8‰? Honeyfund fees are only around 3%. They could buy you stuff that you dont need, and may return in which case you would get the sales tax back anyway.

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  • CoCo
    Dedicated October 2014
    CoCo ·
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    We're not doing a registry-- But we've enlisted family, friends and bridal party to respond with "the two are saving for a home".

    I hope the hint is taken.

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