Sleeping together or apart night before wedding

My man wants to stick with old traditions and so I will be staying at my mom's the night before.

It’s just superstitious...

We are spending the night apart because I need to ride to the venue with my mom and most of the ceremony and reception decorations and sign final contracts for the state park. He is bringing the cake and 2 of his groom's party to help set up about an hour later and we will spend most of the day apart setting up. It's a tradition that most believe in but it's not practical anymore for a lot of people

We are spending the night before the wedding apart. Partly because I like the tradition and partly because all of my BMs are spending the night so it'll be like a girls night before the wedding. He decided he'd just get a hotel room with his GMs!

The story that it is bad luck to see the bride goes back to when brides were bought and sold and implies the groom may not carry on with the wedding if he does not like what he sees. Dump it!!

We already live together and have been married before. It is a morning ritual for the alarm to go off a few minutes early so we can snuggle before going to work. There is no way I'm going to miss out on those snuggles while discussing one of the biggest days of our lives!

Having said all that, if it feels important to you to spend time with your parents the night before your wedding, do it! Good luck and enjoy.

I threw out the rest of the traditions so I think i will throw this out also. I am staying at the Hotel the night before & i told him that he is welcome to stay with me if he wants to.

I'm looking forward to sleeping over my Sister's house,since she's doing my hair and makeup, afterwards we can arrive together for the ceremony🥳🎉

This post seems older so I'm not sure anyone will see my late response, but my heart was breaking as I read many of the PPs.

First off -- Luck itself is a form of superstition! haha, but that's not what stirred me up. What did though, I want to share because I've been married long enough to have experienced both ends of this.

There is definitely a common theme in the advice in this thread. So just something to consider as y'all go into marriage or are already at the beginning of one; Letting your feelings dictate and drive your decisions does not build trust in a relationship.

Just let me explain -- I'm seriously not shaming or judging any of you! (I have been there, done that, do that, and am always fighting against it in myself.) Just think about it for a minute, for it may prove a transforming force in your marriage; Feelings change constantly! How can one know or trust what their spouse, is going to do, from time to time, knowing their spouse is ruled by what they view is right for them, or by what feels good to them, in any given moment? And I do mean, in any given moment.

I can imagine a response to that might be that your spouse and you love each other enough for there to be sufficient trust. Sadly, I don't think that's true. If it is, it's a paradox. Both paradigms can not exist together. We either truly and freely, regardless of causing harm to those around us, have license to do what is right and feels good to us. Or we are bound to an unchanging set of "rules" outside ourselves, that helps us decide what we should do in life's daily decisions.

What is that unchanging set of "rules"? Our wedding vows! Ladies, it's a choice every day. Basing decisions on your vows will build trust. After all, love is a feeling -- right? And aren't those changing all the time?

Love based on something more solid than a feeling produces trust!

Love, that is a choice, builds trust.

I wish all you ladies and their FHs a very strong marriage -- one built on trust.

We are doing apart, not just for tradition but for other reasons. I will have to work the day before we get married (trust me not happy about it) but all my "ladies" will be with me at our place and he is staying at his brothers place. He doesn't want to see me before the wedding. It was the only thing he asked for so I agreed. Bad luck or good luck, we conquer that nonesense together!

My FH and I are sticking with this tradition - one of the few we actually stuck with. FH didn't want to see before wedding. After wedding rehearsal dinner and we get back to hotel - we separate. Once we had 10 rooms booked at our hotel the honeymoon suite (night of wedding was complimentary), once we had 20 rooms booked the honeymoon suite was complimentary for both the wedding night and night before. My FH is staying in the 2nd bedroom of one of the other groomsman's rooms (hotel is all suites) and I'm staying in the honeymoon suite the night before with my usherette (she's on sofa sleeper - she lives near the wedding so she is going home for the night of the wedding).

I'd say do what you want to do. If you are super superstitious, then stay with your family but there are 100's of other things you can and cannot do on your wedding day. I say if you want to stay with your one and only the night before into your big day, then do it!

Below is an odd wedding day superstition i find funny since 90% of people try to plan a wedding on the weekend in this society so everyone can come:

** According to English folklore, the unluckiest day of the week to get married is Saturday. Sounds good to me because Saturday is usually the most expensive day to rent a wedding venue. **

I don't know if it's bad luck to sleep together the night before, but it's a tradition that the groom doesn't see the bride before the wedding on the day of the wedding, so I interpreted that as "he can't see me past midnight." I work at a hotel, so I'm going to spend the night before with my bridesmaids in one of our suites.

No more true than seeing a black cat means you are going to suffer a serious injury or die - it is an old superstition. I for one am at least the 3rd generation I know of, my now hubby and I slept together in our room at the Inn the nights before our wedding, my parents did, my mother's parents did. Mom's Dad died at age 96, and grandma and my parents and hubby and I are all healthy and well . Most people I know who live together usually spend the night before the wedding together. I do not personally know of any who separated just for the night. Why do it? We sleep well together, less well apart . We talked and shared our dreams and cast off our worries, together .

We're doing it. I like most traditions and think they're cute. (Even if the reason behind the tradition isn't so cute) I think having a night apart will be fun. He'll be home with the friends that are staying with us and I'll be at a hotel with my girls, having a girls night. Plus we only have 2 hours prior to the ceremony to be at the venue and I need more time than that to get my hair done lol. My hairdresser is traveling to do everyone's hair and she's guessing 5 hours to do everyone's. Either way I'd have to pay for a room just to do my hair, so a girls night sounded fun

My fiance and I wont be living together until after the wedding! So we will definitely be apart the night before.

My FH and I will be spending the night separately but this is largely because he's a fairly traditional romantic. He doesnt want to see me the day of until I walk down the aisle and he also doesnt want to see my dress. He okayed seeing my veil but once he did, he decided he'd better not see anything else.

I have heard of the superstition/tradition. My FH and I have lived together the majority of our relationship. We also have a child together. (also technically "married" just doing ceremony and reception out of state in Nov.) I personally chose not to be together the night before. I feel like not seeing each other is going to continuously build up the excitement for the day. However you picture the big day is what you should do!

I'm sorry, i just saw you already got married..... i hope your day was PERFECT!!!!

My FW and I have lived together for 6 years now so likely we’ll spend the night before the wedding together and part ways after breakfast to go get ready on our own, and won’t see each other again until the first look.

If it is the first marriage I would sleep at your parents house the night before. I stayed at my adopted Mom's the night before my first wedding to my first husband but he saw me before I got in my dress cause his niece did my hair. This time around I plan on doing things different and have him see me before I walk down the aisle. He helped me try on my dress and he is paying for everything I want for this wedding as I am waiting to get my social security disability through