Devoted July 2019

Sleeping together or apart night before wedding

Nique, on June 24, 2019 at 1:17 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 100
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Don't know if I should sleep at my parents house. Or at home with my fiance. I've heard it's bad luck to sleep together the night before the wedding because ur not supsto see each other is that true?


  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
    Haven’t heard that one before. But since we already lived together, were 40’s/50’s when we married and it was my hubby’s 2nd marriage, we threw a lot of traditions out the window. We spent the night together at our DW resort and it was so fun! After our welcome dinner with guests, we went to our suite and practiced our welcome speech for our wedding & were so giddy thinking about our wedding day! Great having room service breakfast together on our wedding day before the DIY decorating began. 💕
  • Cheryl
    Expert October 2020
    Cheryl ·
    Depends on how superstitious you are. I'm not, so FH and I are spending the night together the night before in the "bridal suite". We'll have breakfast and get pre-ready. Then he'll leave to go to the groomsmen's room to hang out, watch TV and get dressed. My mom, maids, mother in law and sister in law will come over to get ready with me. FH and I will do a 30 minute first look and then we'll do family pictures prior to the ceremony.
  • Wendy
    Super August 2020
    Wendy ·
    Our resort offers a complimentary suit for the groom the night before the wedding so we are definitely using it!!! We’re not doing it because of any beliefs but more so that we can have that anticipation feeling !!
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
    Apart this is probably the only tradition we are sticking too. It’s just easier since my sister will be staying at my parents house any way. Plus we have a lot of family crashing at our house.
  • C
    Expert January 2020
    Cassie ·
    We didn’t even discuss this. My FH asked where he was staying, he assumed my girls would be taking over the house. Lol I told him he could stay at our house and I’ll stay at the hotel close to the venue. Our venue has a bridal suite but doesn’t have an area for the grooms to get ready, so after they run errands in the morning I wanted a place for them to get ready near the venue.
  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
    We hardly spent anytime apart our wedding weekend. We slept together the night before and only parted in the late morning/afternoon for HMU, etc. I saw him before our first look too. I hadn't necessarily planned that but, honestly, with how hectic things are the day of the wedding, it didn't even phase me lol. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
    I agree with doing whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy.

    We'll be hanging out together the day before the wedding most likely. However, he'll be staying in a suite the night before that we'll stay in together the night of the wedding.
  • Cieloregina
    Dedicated July 2019
    Cieloregina ·
    My fiance and I are sleeping apart the night before our wedding, even though we have been living together for almost 4 years now. Not so much because of superstition, but because I want to surprise him as I come down the aisle.
  • Shannon
    Expert June 2021
    Shannon ·
    Too far off to know for sure, but we will probably stay together.
  • Rockie
    Devoted June 2019
    Rockie ·
    We didn’t, not for any religious or bad luck reason but because it really made it magical when I walked down the aisle to have all that anticipation.
  • Jazmin
    Rockstar April 2019
    Jazmin ·

    The real reason behind the not sleeping together superstition is this "Stemming from arranged marriage, the tradition’s roots come from when couples wouldn’t meet until their wedding, with fathers tricking the grooms into thinking that the bride was more attractive than she was, forbidding them to see each other until her veil was removed. Seeing as this would usually be after the wedding ceremony, the groom would, therefore, be stuck in the arrangement". I took this from an article at Marie Claire uk.

    It is up to you if you want to follow that "tradition" or not. We didn't and it didn't take away any magic from our wedding day.

  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
    We are spending the night apart. He’ll leave the rehearsal dinner and go home to sleep and get ready the next day. I’m sleeping at my dad’s house that week because I’ll be helping to prepare. He’ll drive over in the afternoon with his best man.
  • Macy
    Expert September 2019
    Macy ·
    I haven’t heard it’s bad luck, I’ve heard he shouldn’t see you in your dress before. We already live together but me and my girls are having a girls night the night before and watching a bunch of wedding related movies. So we are sleeping apart though. I think it’s your preference. We’re not having any communication the night before through the morning of. Just to add to the suspense lol
  • Justine
    Super July 2019
    Justine ·
    We are staying together. We own our house and live 30 mins from the venue where I’m getting ready and he’ll be going later. There’s no point in staying apart that night for us.
  • Shannon
    Expert October 2017
    Shannon ·
    We stayed in our apartment together the night before. That morning while I was getting ready he left to do a few last minute guy things like get the car washed. I was ready when he got back and we drove together to our wedding.
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
    I think it’s tradition but we spent the night together. We live together and didn’t follow many traditions so I say do whatever makes you both happy.
  • Sherry
    VIP September 2019
    Sherry ·

    My FH and I will be sleeping together the night before and seeing each other that morning during setup. Once we start getting dressed, we will not see each other until I am walking down the aisle.

  • Amber
    Devoted July 2019
    Amber ·
    Were spending the night apart, not because of tradition or superstition.... but he doesn’t want to deal with me that morning 😂
  • Steph
    Dedicated June 2019
    Steph ·

    I stayed at my moms house and my husband stayed at our house. We wanted to fell like we "missed" each other the day of our wedding and it made us excited to see each other the day of. I'm sure I would have been just as excited even if we stayed together. But we liked the idea of staying apart. Plus all my friends stayed with me at my moms and he was with a friend

  • Jess
    Super September 2019
    Jess ·

    It's whatever you prefer. I dont believe that theres any bad luck associated with seeing or not seeing. I will be staying apart from FH the night before ours just because as PP have said I want to have more anticipation to see him since we wont see each other until I'm walking down the aisle. However, if you're perfectly comfortable seeing him the night before/morning of then go for it!

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