Skipping the Save the dates?

I originally didn’t want to get them because I thought they’d be too expensive and pointless but my engagement pictures turned out so good and I got a good deal for my invitations so I was able to add the save the dates. I think it was nice too because probably about 70% of my guest list is from out of state so it gave everyone plenty of time to figure out travel plans and be prepared.

We skipped them. Just an unnecessary trend. You can send invites out 8-12 weeks ahead of time, and that’s plenty of notice.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I totally agree.

There’s nothing wrong with skipping them! There are free ways to do them, though, if it’s that important. You can send email versions or even text ones. A friend of mine used free photo editing apps to make her own and email/text it to everyone.
We’re having Save the Dates because they’re in our budget and a lot of our guests will be traveling. It’s also how we’re ensuring they have the link to our wedding website for all important information. Originally, I was planning to skip them, but I found very affordable ones on Etsy.

I think you have the best attitude about this! You are so right if they don’t come they don’t... not everybody can make it! I did do save the dates but the last two weddings I went to I only got the invite and it gave me plenty of time to work around my schedule. Maybe send your invites a week earlier than you originally would have? I’ll be honest I WAISTED my money on save the dates. Only half of mine went out. Basically only family. My fiancé’s family is terrible with communication and I have done everything myself so when he didn’t give me addresses and his mom didn’t give me their friends addresses I said screw it! So basically $200 down the hole. Now they just sit in a box and I’ll eventually burn them or something 🤷🏽‍♀️ Maybe post wedding bonfire 😂


If you MIL wants you to do it just post your wedding website and just have the main page public that has the date and tell guest to check back for more info later. I sure wish I did that!
My biggest wedding regret and mistake was that I didn’t create my guest list until after I had given my family members their save the dates. I have 60 some days to my wedding and I still don’t have a finished guest list. Save your money and spend your time on the guest list instead of save the dates.

Also I do recommend magnet street for wedding stationary. I got trifold invites with inserts ( 275 of each) with envelopes for $320 instead of the ‘normal’ $600


I do not recommend DIY invites or save the dates... I tried and it was too much for me personally and I’m a person who does projects and crafts all the time!

I did email save the dates for free! Used the add in Mail merge for Google, which let's you send 50 emails per day at no charge.

We're getting married Memorial Day weekend so we're sending STDs just to make sure no one makes any plans lol.

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We just sent out ours on Tuesday and used Greenenvelop, which is digital and goes to guests emails. They were a big hit and so easy.

View Quoted Comment There are so many great digital options out there! We did paper ones, but I’ve received many electronic ones as a guest and all worked out really well. I think that save the dates are so important and I hope the OP considers at least doing digital ones because it’s a great way to save money

I agree with you, if they can they will come if not then that's ok too. I am not doing save the dates for the same reason, and also skipping the programs. I myself like keeping the invitations they are prettier and if they have a picture of the couple they make a nice keepsake.

View Quoted Comment We will also be skipping programs. I just feel it's a wedding people really don't need the programs we all know how a wedding goes. Unless I was doing something very untraditional.

I was planning on using electronic save the dates and sending them by phone or email. I've been looking at some on Etsy and I think it'll be a really inexpensive way since some save the date templates just cost about $6-$7. So its very budget friendly to spend only that much and be able send it to an unlimited about of people. I also think it would be convenient for this year since you can go back and change any details and resend them.