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Skipping the Save the dates?

Katie, on July 29, 2020 at 4:26 PM Posted in Planning 0 33

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How many people decide on saving the money and skipping the save the dates? I never really cared for them I think they are a waste of money and 90% of them get thrown away anyways. I mean if you have the money to get them great but if you really don't have the money I think cutting them out of your wedding budget isn't a bad idea, especially when you have social media. We aren't doing them, but my future mother in law is really trying to push for us to have them. I told her I'm not wasting the money on them, I've talked about my wedding for a year now and the date. I've posted to social media a couple of times and even have the date on my profile picture and my background picture. She's like well some people go on vacation that time and without a save the date they won't have a heads up and end up missing your wedding. But it's like I told her if they come great if not because they didn't get a save the date I honestly really don't care, one less person I have to pay for. All that matters is that the important people are there which I'm sure they will because I have been talk about the wedding for a year now to them. Honestly they probably have it marked on their calendars because they probably can't wait for it to happen so I can shut up about it lmao.

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Jana · on July 29, 2020 at 4:30 PM
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Magnets won't get tossed out. You can order them very inexpensively on Vistaprint. Also not everyone shares the same social media or follows each other.

She can pay for them if she wishes. They really are helpful at giving guests a heads up with arranging travel/time off from work but not required.
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Shelly · on July 29, 2020 at 4:32 PM
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I dont think save the dates are necessary. I originally was against them but I am getting married on a holiday weekend so I'm worried people will take vacations, now I will be sending them out. As long as your wedding isnt on a holiday or when people take vacations, you'll be fine without them. Just make sure the people you really want there know, which it seems like they do!
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 4:37 PM
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Any magnet I ever have received for a save the date got tossed. Like I said all I care about is having the important people there. Plus regardless of the price I'd rather spend that money on something else.
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Chrysta · on July 29, 2020 at 4:38 PM
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Originally I had decided not to send out save the dates. However, once we postpone due to the pandemic, I thought it would be wise to send them out in order to prevent confusion and also to stake claim to my date since there are so many being rescheduled to next year! LOL We ordered magnets though, not paper save the dates. I agree the paper ones tend to get lost and thrown away. Usually magnets have a much better retention rate. Like you said though, if it is not within your budget, it is definitely not something that is mandatory. If your mother-in-law thinks they are necessary, perhaps she could pay for them?
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 4:40 PM
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Ok yes a holiday weekend seems like a better reason to have a save the date. But my wedding however is in August. And yes the people I really want there definitely know all about the wedding and what day it is and time. I got a little excited when I got engaged and chose a date and couldn't stop talking about it.
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Lisa · on July 29, 2020 at 4:41 PM
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I sent Save The Dates only because my wedding is a semi-destination wedding in my state. Everyone will have to travel, so I wanted to make sure everyone had the info well ahead of time to make travel plans and such. Otherwise, if they're not in your budget, I think it's fine to skip them.
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 4:43 PM
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That's what I told her. I told her if she thinks we definitely need to have save the dates then she can pay for them. I told her I'm not wasting money on them cause I'm already on a tight budget.
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 4:45 PM
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Yea that is another good reason to do them. My wedding isn't a destination wedding. Everyone we are inviting is in the same state as us.
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Chrysta · on July 29, 2020 at 4:45 PM
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That sounds totally reasonable, since she is the one insisting you have them!
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Eri · on July 29, 2020 at 4:48 PM
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Save the dates are not necessary, but we decided to do them because we chose a popular date so that guests would have time to plan. I spent $60 on them and thought they were well worth it.
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Jasmine · on July 29, 2020 at 4:49 PM
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It's definitely not a necessity. If she wants them that bad then let her know she'd be the ones paying for them lol. I have family from out of town and out of the country that I want to make sure they make it so definitely sending save the dates because of work or any other schedules they might have going on. Some of our guests like to disappear and plan vacations just because so it's important for us. It won't always be like that for everyone where they feel they need save the dates and that's totally ok.
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 4:52 PM
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If you have the money to do them it's great or if you are having a destination wedding or a wedding on a holiday, then I could totally see it and it would be more worth the money. But I'm not about to break the bank for save the dates, cause my wedding doesn't fall on a holiday and it isn't a destination wedding. We are trying so hard to pay for everything with this wedding using cash only, well we are using checks with the cash we put in our bank accounts. And so I really don't want to waste money we have saved on things I don't feel we really need.
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Hanna · on July 29, 2020 at 5:03 PM
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Honestly, in your situation I would send electronic save the dates, like through Paperless Post or Evite. This way you won't have to spend money since you're tight on budget, but you can still send save the dates. I'd be concerned that not everybody is on social media, so they wouldn't see that your date is on your Facebook profile, etc.
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 5:10 PM
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That is something I could do. I know that not everyone is on social media, but it isn't a big deal to me if some people don't end up coming because they didn't know earlier about it. As long as my immediate family and his immediate family are there thats all that really matters to us. Yes it would be nice to have everyone there that we invited or at least most but it's not like it's going to ruin my day if the people outside our immediate family don't come because they already have plans.
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 5:11 PM
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But I definitely am going to look into electronic save the dates. I never really thought about that.
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Veronica · on July 29, 2020 at 5:15 PM
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I disagree. I think save the dates are really important especially because next year a lot of people have had to postpone their weddings so I think it makes it easier on guests if they have something with the date on it that they can reference. My husband and I have every save the date we have ever received hanging on our fridge. We have also been to several people's homes that have our save the date still hanging on their fridge. Also, not everyone uses social media. I have recently taken a break from social media due to personal reasons. I also think you can purchase ones for very cheap. My friend got his through Walmart and they look very nice and I know they were extremely inexpensive. Since your wedding is in August, that's a popular time of year to get married and like your mother-in-law has said that's also a popular time for vacation.
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Melle · on July 29, 2020 at 5:24 PM
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I skipped mine. I kind of just told people once I got a date
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Katie · on July 29, 2020 at 5:24 PM
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I feel for me it's just a waste. My parents threw out save the dates before, I've thrown them out and I know a bunch of other people who have to. The only people I've ever seen keeping those things are close family and friends. And those closest to us are the only ones we really care if they come, and I'm 100% sure they won't forget because they hear about the wedding at least once a month. I'm not really all that concerned or worried about other people we invite not showing up. If they come great if not oh well. It's not going to make or break my day.
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Kirsten · on July 29, 2020 at 8:11 PM
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I completely skipped the STDs but sent the invites early for the people traveling. (Three months out instead of the usual 6 weeks. )
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