Skipping the ceremony and only attending the reception

Amazing!

I second everything everyone already said.

I envision lots and lots of declines to this event, on principle. Ironic that an attempt to make money will probably result in a bigger loss. Pathetic!

Ok first of all so rude of them to set a limit on the money gift. Wow what a bitch. Second, why the hell is there such a huge gap between? I can guarantee you a lot of people will be skipping one or the other. My money is they'll be skipping the ceremony because the reception has food and drinks. Who does that? That's way too much time and way too much driving for one event. Your reception should be immediately followed by the ceremony and no more than 20 minutes away. That's just rude. People today man. They are completely clueless.

Haven't read the comments, but DECLINE DECLINE DECLINE.

Hard pass

I agree with PPs who said don't go. It's very rude.

I would decline so fast..

I think that is perfectly fine especially with that huge time gap and driving.

I also know a lot of people who will attend one or another for many reasons

Omg! They asked for a minimum cash gift? SO tacky. Go to the reception and gift them a card. So so so gross

Holy Moses! $150 per person?!? At my 100 guests that's $15k! Might as well invite tons of people to make some $.

Side note, does this mean since I'm American I can ask for apple pie and cheeseburgers only as gifts?

It almost sounds like she wants cash only so she can pay her vendors back as the event is happening....

How do you even ask for a minimum amount!?! Wouldn't you hear how rude it is as soon as it's out of your mouth

If I went, at all, it would only be to the reception.

And, with the bride telling guests to bring money (and the amount), I would arrive with no gift at all. This has nothing to do with being Italian and everything to being a greedy dumbass.

How did she communicate the "minimum gift" amount??? I cannot even imagine this, but I'm baffled by how she made her demand known. Was it on the invitation? Like, "Mr. & Mrs. Blah Blah request the honor of your presence..... And, the minimum cash gift is $150 pp." YIKES!

PS - RSVP? NO!

I wouldn't go after being told how much money is 'appropriate' to gift. How rude. Otherwise, yeah, reception only.

I'd prefer to sit home in pajamas and veg on Netflix over having to pay an expected amount as a gift

It's not an Italian thing.. and she's saying 150 minimum because she is probably so deep in the hole with the wedding that her guests are basically paying for it. That's the only logical reason.. although with a huge gap like that she clearly isn't concerned about any etiquette or anything.. if you end up going I would wear white just to spite her!

I would tell them you're saving that money for another concert. -_-

And yes, you don't have to go to both. If you decide to go, please do me this solid and give them a check for 149.99.

Yes, Catholics do it all the time by skipping the wedding mass and just going to the reception

I had someone RSVP yes to the reception but no to the ceremony. They are in the same place but they had plans during the ceremony time and are planning to come right after. I didn't mind this.

I think especially with the travel considerations it is very reasonable to only attend one event. I would definitely only attend the reception if I was being told how much to give!

And here I was worried about a 15 minute drive to my reception....

Just for the simple fact that she told you the minimum acceptable amount of cash to give, I'd skip the entire thing.