Skipping the ceremony and only attending the reception

Oh my god. Don't go.

Oh wow, I would be declining. There's a lot wrong with how she's doing this.

Second @Olivia, what is the minimum? If it was $75 pp I would give $74.99

@OliviaP @An the requested minimum is $150 per person. I admit I was surprised that the gifts had to be cash only, when I quizzed her about it she said it was an Italian thing.

Thing is not sure I can afford $300 for my FI and I so I might end up having to give less anyway

I'm Italian. I don't only except money. But if that's how it was supposed to be, damn why did no one tell me?!

ETA: after reading comments it sounds like she's using being "an Italian thing" as a really poor cover up for "our cost per plate is $150/person so if we tell people it's our culture to give a minimum of xxx in cash we can make our money back. "

It's a scheme. A very poor one at that.

Um nope, not sure where you are located but that is up there with some pp costs for the wedding.. a wedding should not be crowd-sourced. Hard pass.

Yeah don't go.

$300?! Is she expecting to get the money she spent on the wedding back?

Hard pass from me. The gap is super rude, and I might just go to the reception, but the gift thing makes it a "no".

I'm Irish, so therefore will only accept whiskey. It's a thing. :/

I'd find myself busy the day of the wedding, and politely decline the invitation.

Did they actually put this on the invitation? I'm speechless.

I would decline!

Just don't go to either. That's too much for me

Demanding $300 per couple? Lol... I'd put a gift card to taco bell in my card. Jk...

Excuse me $150 pp?!?! Hard freaking pass for me, my God. Either skip or only go to the reception. That is so beyond rude holy crap

Um my family is Italian and that is not a part of the culture at all... So.

Ok...

So I am having my Ceremony in Brooklyn NY and Reception in Florham Park, NJ. Yes, it is about an hour drive. ( I didn't like anything else near by, I wanted to get married at the location in Jersey) BUT I told my guests they are not obligated to come to both. Lot of my friends who live in Jersey are going straight to the reception so they don't have to drive back and forth. ( and I am TOTALLY FINE WTH THIS - I am the one who suggested it to begin with)

As far as them asking for money - its wrong on so many levels and I would probably not even attend if I was TOLD to bring money. Just an fyi - I am marrying an Italian-American.... he would be so embarrassed for his heritage if I told him this... gross.

I'm with Nonna- I'd skip the whole thing if someone told me how much to donate- that's fucking rude as fuck.

Oh my god do NOT go to this wedding and send nothing. This so beyond trashy, I'm speechless. And it is not an Italian thing - I'm Italian and have never heard of this in my life.

That's awful! I'd probably skip the whole thing, especially since I'm being dictated how much I'm supposed to give. Nope!!!

ETA: $150 per person?!?!?! WHAT!?!??!?! So rude!!!!!

If the ceremony is a Catholic Mass (just guessing since they're Italian ), I'd go to that only and bring no gift since Masses are public and gifts aren't required to attend. (I'm just feeling super petty over the bride's demand for cash. )