Andrea
Just Said Yes March 2022

Sisters in laws are making our day about them

Andrea, on October 20, 2021 at 12:07 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
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I wanna start off by saying I do like both of my sisters in law. They’re nice and fun. But they are quite different from me mainly due to age difference and interests. We have a 13 & 11 yr age diff. The younger one got married in 2017 and I was a bridesmaid in that party.


I canceled my bachelorette party to go to Disneyland for the weekend with my small bridal party.
Both of my SIL are guilt tripping me into letting them get ready with me the morning of the wedding when I specifically mentioned that I wanted that intimate time with my mother and my very small bridal party ( My sister and two besties)
2017 bride said that since we decided not to do a big bachelorette with all my gfs and them that they feel left out and bummed. And that they should be there morning of to bond. Even though I planned a spa day with just them two. They still feel that they have to get hair and makeup done professionally with me and it’s stressing me out
The older one lost a lot a weight in the last two years and told my MIL that she has to look better in my wedding than in 2017 SIL told her that I’m having a big wedding to out do her and have me grief on throwing a big formal wedding (Hera was small and sweet) that’s already a red flag and 2017 SIL is even more upset cause I was a bridesmaid at her wedding and she thinks she should be one in my wedding and thinks she should be more involved and even tried taking over my MOHs original plans for a bachelorette.
As much as I enjoy their company I really don’t want to get ready with them especially since they’re already making it all about them and their feelings. How do I tell them AGAIN that I do not want them getting ready with me without causing drama?

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Latest activity by Cool, on October 22, 2021 at 11:35 AM
  • Frankie
    Dedicated April 2022
    Frankie ·
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    As long as you remain polite,respectful, you can say what you want!

    " Sorry for not being able to include you, the room can only accommodate 5 people".

    "I really want to spend quality time with my mother, sister and my 2 besties before the storm , it's important to me".

    And:" I'm sorry you feel that way but the decision has been made, it's not up for debate".

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  • Cece
    Rockstar November 2022
    Cece ·
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    Just tell them your HMUA cannot accommodate any additional services. Plus, doing so would completely throw off your timeline (ie, you would have to get up earlier to start HMU). You can also say that your photographer (and videographer, if you are having one) will be taking pictures at that time, and it is already very crowded for them to be able to move around and get the shots they need, and you do not want to make their jobs any harder for them. You could also let them know you anticipate being very busy and potentially incredibly stressed out the morning of the wedding, and would like to limit the number of people around you so you can keep your zen. Just be very sympathetic and apologetic. Make sure they know that you love them and would like to spend time with them, but unfortunately it is just not feasible during the getting ready process, but you look forward to celebrating with them at the reception!
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  • Cool
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    “No.” Is a complete sentence. They’re trying to bully you into inviting them and you’ve politely explained multiple times why not. If they bring it up again, just say it’s already been determined and isn’t changing. Don’t talk wedding at all with them moving forward.
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  • Susan
    Devoted October 2021
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    "No is a complete sentence" has just blown my mind. Thank you.

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  • Cool
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    You’re welcome. It was very helpful for me to learn also! I use it a lot Smiley smile
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