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Sister's boyfriend proposal idea

FutureFrames, on March 31, 2018 at 7:39 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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My sister's boyfriend is about to propose to her soon and I know she won't like some details about it. This will be the proposal: They're going on a staycation in Miami beach, renting a hotel for the weekend, one of the nights they are going for drinks at Bayside, which is a shopping place right by the water. He's planning on doing it on a pirate ship party boat, which is a tourist attraction, as soon as they get on board the song "Casate conmigo" will start playing and 30 of their family and friends will pop up and then he'll get down and propose then we'll all set sail for the night. Pros: She likes Pirates of the Caribbean, it will all be filmed, she loves dancing Cons: I know she doesn't like party boats, Everyone has to pay an entrance fee (around 30 each ticket), Its a cash bar, there will be around 70 other random people there, I know she'd want more family and friends there, seems a bit impersonal :/ I know my sister deserves something super special and romantic, even my parents are a little hesitate about the whole thing. Is there anything as a sister I can do to better the situation?

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TANYA · on March 31, 2018 at 7:46 PM
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I dont think so... I would let him propose how he wants to.
I think its sweet that he is including her family and trying to make it special/memorable.
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muriel · on March 31, 2018 at 7:50 PM
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30 of their friends and family as witnesses won't be enough for her?
I would stay out of it. This is his plan, not yours.
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Kim · on March 31, 2018 at 8:00 PM
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What doesn’t she like about party boats? I don’t typically like them since I’m not a heavy drinker but honestly if that moment presented me, I would be too in the joyous moment to really care.
Is there any chance she’d say no? Or have they talked about marriage and she’s fully ready?
i think the only thing you could do here is ask your FBIL if he needs any help and if he’d like you to look over the guest list to ensure everyone “important” is there.
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FutureFrames · on March 31, 2018 at 8:24 PM
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She doesn’t like the atmosphere of it. In my opinion, I don’t think they are ready it’s still too early they have a lot to learn about each other. She’s on occasion said she isn’t ready and we’ve warned him about it before but that’s a whole other discussion lol. He’s very set on the people so I don’t think I can fix the list, it’s pretty split 15 him and 15 her...
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Kim · on March 31, 2018 at 8:29 PM
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Hm sounds like he’s very set in his plan. I think the best advice then is to prepare yourself to be the best support for your sister you can be. If it were me, I’d be thinking about some good questions to ask her because I would want to make sure it sounds like I’m caring/supportive and not judging.
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Marta · on March 31, 2018 at 9:28 PM
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I think you should let it be. It will be special for her no matter what. And he seems to have put a lot of thought into it.
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happeningmom · on March 31, 2018 at 10:10 PM
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Her soon to be fiancé has put a lot of time and effort trying to find the way he thinks would be the best for him
to propose to your sister. He has included 30 extra people in this event. He has thought about the fact she likes Pirates, etc. To be honest the proposal is for your sister and FH...not you, your family, friends etc. The fiancé needs to propose in the manner that he feels is right for their relationship not what everybody else feels is right. Another thing, if you or someone tries to change his ideas, whose to say that he won’t wait, propose at another time and ensure that no one else knows as to avoid being told his way isn’t the best. Just my thoughts!
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