So, long story short...my sister isn't a bridesmaid and I want to incorporate her into the wedding. I could spend a day typing up what my thought process was when I decided not to ask her and I don't feel comfortable sharing all the personal factors that went into it. She is 8 years older than me and my whole life my parents tried to "shelter" me from my older sister. It has resulted in an unstable relationship between us and a lot of resentment. I love her and I know I will regret it if I don't incorporate her into the wedding somehow. I am one month away, so...I'm kind of feeling horrible.
My idea: Have her walk my two nieces down the aisle - they are ages 4 and 5. Yes, they are old enough to do it themselves, but I know they will be nervous and it will be a way for my sister to be involved. I also want her to read a passage, but I am still waiting on a response from her. After all of this, I would like her to stand next to me and my bridesmaids...maybe beside the last bridesmaid...there are only 4 including MOH? She wouldn't have the same dress or a bouquet (unless I added another one)...so, this might be awkward? Also, my fiancé would add his friend that wasn't able to be in the wedding party since I don't have many close friends. Again, my sister and this other friend of his wouldn't be matching the rest of the party. She wants some direction of color of dress, but I have no idea what to tell her. The bridesmaid dresses are from Azazie and are a blushing pink and I don't feel like matching it would be easy at all. Is any of this weird?
Also, I would LOVE to have my nieces as flower girls. They have had a very rough upbringing and it would bring me a lot of joy to see them involved in my wedding. However, it is a 13 and over wedding and I've heard a lot of horror stories about kids being in weddings...any thoughts? Before anyone makes a comment, FH's family and friends know about situation and harbor no bad feelings towards myself or my family for doing this (it is mainly a family wedding). My whole reason for having a 13 and over wedding (which for some sounds stupid) was to prevent little kids from acting out during the wedding and being loud (sorry to those who do not agree). But, I'm also nervous that they might act up themselves dring the ceremony if I involve them. I'm just overall nervous and I know it sounds horrible considering what I just said, but would it be a bad idea? Thanks!
