Sister is my MOH..but doesn't care? *vent*

Anyways...I guess this is just more of a vent session, seeing as there is really nothing I can do...

Do we have the same sister? mine behaves like this too--but she's not my maid of honor. I'm wondering--were you pressured by other family members to pick your sister? and then I wonder if she was pressured to agree? I hope you two can work something out---for everyone's sanity.

I know it is super tacky to ask someone to step down from their position, but maybe you should in this case

Sounds like we do Leah!! And no...my mom actually said she would not care if my sister was in the bridal party or not...because she is a difficult person. I did it because she is my sister and I wanted her to be! But apparently it was a mistake!

Do you talk to her about anything other than the wedding? No one will ever care more about your wedding than you, not even your sister.

Yes! We talk regularly, but never about the wedding. The only times I talk to her about it is either about bridesmaid stuff or if I want her opinion on something. But that is not often.

I dont really have anything to say other than i am so so sorry.

I purposely didn't put my step sisters in the wedding (my step mom says they are upset) because they always talk down to me, or tell me that I'm spending too much... What we spend is none of their business. They never act excited for us. I had to make decisions that would make me happy. So i didn't put them in the wedding.

She just isn't excited for me in the least.

My sister is the same way! She was originally my MOH but certain circumstances led to her stepping down and now one of my friends is MOH and I honestly felt tremendous relief after.

Why would you ask someone to be your MOH who has "always tended to be a self centered person"? Like did you think your sister would suddenly change because it's your wedding?

I'm not trying to be mean, but it doesn't work that way. You put yourself in this position. Expect nothing more from her. Seriously.

Like I said, I am NOT a center-of-attention person, I am just shocked about how little she gives a f***

If she says she refuses to wear it then tell her she doesn't have to be in the wedding then.. it's one day and she can't wear some shoes that she doesn't like? Bitch please.. *insert eyeroll*.

Ugh... So sorry you have to deal with this!

I can see wanting to include your sister because, well, she's your sister. And yes, you probably did expect more out of her in this situation. I would have to. We all hope the people we love will "do better", but the saying is true... ."When people show you who they are, believe them". Some people just never change. Just don't talk to her about anything else. Talk to your trusted friends. She can show up on the day, but obviously she is not there for you otherwise.

So sorry! Just think about all the positives of your wedding and your life with future hubby

PS... HOLY CUTE PUPPY AVATAR!

I didn't say you were any type of person, I just said you knowingly picked your sister knowing what kind of person she would be.

Unfortunately, weddings don't change people. At all. They often make them worse, actually.

Your wedding will still be special. What is pivotal is that you DO NOT expect any more from your sister. Focus on the better sides.

Sooo, for example, my brother was a GM. My brother is the laziest MF'er on this planet. He had almost no involvement in my wedding other than showing up. Was I upset? No. It's who he has been since 1987.

Is it possible she is jealous of your engagement or that there has been more attention on you because of it?

maybe schedule a skype date and dont talk about the wedding at all. focus on her. if shes still behaving this way after that, you may need to confront her more directly

Have you asked her if she wants to be your MOH still? Maybe something has changed.

Aurelia..I added that right as you commented, so that was not directed at you! I apologize!!!

Kristy..thanks for the advice and I KNOW. I LOVE PUPPIES!

@kv9494 I understand completely. Even though you know how she is deep down you really hope that she can just be supportive and stand by your side for one day. At least that's how I felt about my sister.

Are you sure we aren't sharing sisters??? Just vented about something similar in the wtf Wednesday forum!!