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Sister-in-law's wedding

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Kendra, on September 17, 2016 at 9:01 PM

Hey yall. I was on here a couple years ago when I started planning my wedding. So I'm sure I don't know anyone still on here. But I wanted to get some advice now that my sister-in-law is getting married. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding. She also lived with me and her brother (my husband) at the time. While I was planning the wedding, she did not offer to help with literally anything. My husband worked evenings at the time, and she would walk right past me addressing envelopes or decorating centerpieces or whatever and go to her room. Not a big deal to me then. I didn't ask her to help and I didn't expect her to. I did ask that we all go dress shopping together for their bridesmaid dresses. She didn't want to. She didn't even come to my shower, which is a whole other story. We've never really had problems, we just haven't been close. So she gets engaged and asks me to be a bridesmaid. I accepted. Now she wants all 9 of her bridesmaids to meet monthly and her MOH emailed all of us

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Master July 2015
annakay511 · on September 18, 2016 at 9:00 AM
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If you don't want to be involved, tell her!
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Master December 2015
OriginalKD · on September 18, 2016 at 9:10 AM
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I remember you but can't quite remember the back story as to why....

ETA: Just refreshed myself. I had you confused with someone else. Welcome back :-)
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VIP August 2016
Jessica · on September 18, 2016 at 9:34 AM
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Monthly meetings for what? It's pretty typical for the bridesmaid's to help pay for the shower and bachelorette party. I would probably like other posters suck it up and deal with it.
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VIP October 2016
Brooke · on September 18, 2016 at 9:38 AM
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I would gracefully back out...it's only going to get worse from here.
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Super September 2016
Helen · on September 18, 2016 at 9:49 AM
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I would politely say.....I will be a bridesmaid, show up, smile, and wear my dress
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Nessa · on September 18, 2016 at 9:59 AM
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Don't bring it up, what's past is past. But, do only participate if it's something you feel comfortable with, and want to do for her, despite how she behaved. Otherwise, don't do it.
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Mrs. Coakley · on September 18, 2016 at 10:04 AM
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You are way too nice. If my SIL did that I wouldnt even be a bridesmaid. F that shit. But I'm a vengeful bitch so I'm probably not helpful, lol.
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Emily · on September 18, 2016 at 11:04 AM
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I remember you!
Monthly meetings for over a year? Hell no. This is so far beyond reasonable, it's ridiculous. I would do the bare minimum (dress shopping, attend the shower and batch), but that's all. If you WANT to contribute money to the shower, then do so, but you don't have to. It is good to be the bigger person, but there are limits.
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MrsMcCoy · on September 18, 2016 at 11:42 AM
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She sounds like she is going to be a nightmare of a special snowflake bride! I probably wouldn't say anything, since she is family, but I definitely wouldn't commit to monthly meetings (wtf- why is that necessary?!). How much is the MOH asking for now? Is it a reasonable amount? I feel like you will likely be expected to contribute more later as well.
Sounds like a tricky situation.
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