Sister in law problems

On that day and I know that she does not feel that way and that would not happen with her presence in the bridal party. I have discussed it with my FH and he feels the same but I am worried to cause more family problems. What do I do?

Has your FH talked to her about what her issue is with you? That would be my first step.

Elope!!

I can't imagine dealing with that. Kinda seems like your damned if you do and damned if you don't!!

@brittany oh yes, we have been dealing with constant problems with her for over a year now. My FH completely agrees with me as far as the issues I have with her and he has the same issues as well. We are both very fed up with her

I think FH needs to talk with her. He needs to stand up for you; it sounds like this is totally unprovoked and that she just likes to stir the pot. If she can't see eye to eye with him and get on board with being nice to you, I don't know what to tell you. You can't really take this offer back without creating more problems for yourself. I am really sorry to hear about your situation though. Any chance she'll step down of her own accord?

Honestly, if he doesn't have a problem with it I would not include her in my day at all!

If she's already messing up ties with family and her own brother then peace out, she doesn't need to be there. Clearly not that important to her.

@michelle fiancé has called her on several occasions and I have tried myself and things will improve for a short time and then things end up worse than they have ever been. I am hoping she will step down herself but I don't think it's going to happen. I know there is no easy answer here

Hey girl, this is a sticky situation; however, it sounds like the feelings may be mutual. My biggest concern is, has she already spent money on a dress. If she hasn't, then I think it's sage top go to her in some safe way and tell her how you feel and what you need for your big day, and since you two don't get along, is best if she is a guest and not a BM

By the way she is not even FH sister she is FH brother's wife so even crazier that she acts this way

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Oh my. Do you think she is maybe jealous??

@brittany yes that is exactly it me and my FH figured out. I am in law school and getting ready to finish up and she is very very jealous of that, she brings it up constantly

What does the rest of the family think of her behavior? She's just as much a family member to them as you are/are going to be (both married in). I imagine they must be excited for your FH, is there anyway they can help you out?

You two should elope and avoid all family drama together

Seriously? She's jealous about law school? That's pathetic.

I had a very similar issue and FH called and said that when we got engaged she seemed really excited and happy to stand up for us on our wedding day... but since recent events have left the relationship in serious strain, it is better if she not participate in the events that day. He left it open for her to come to the wedding but.... yeah.... have him deliver the blow. You need to be surrounded by your people who make you feel good about the marriage. No drama that day

This same exact situation happened to me. His sister spread so many lies about me and turned his entire side of the family against me. Luckily his mom knows her craziness and was on my side. She was supposed to be a bridesmaid but I didn't not want her in the bridal party anymore. DH refused to talk to her because he can't stand her so I had to be the one to ask her to attend as a guest instead. She's bat shit crazy which makes me feel even better about my decision.

I'm in the same boat. FBIL wife is a total She Devil! She is currently protesting the wedding and posting on everything I say on social media about the wedding with statistics about the high divorce rate between young couples who get married in our area. She's angry because our wedding is the day after their anniversary and we stole all the attention away from them announcing their second baby at Christmas because that's when FH proposed. I had FH and FBIL sit her down and have a come to Jesus meeting with her. FH told her that everyone let her have her day and now it's my turn and if she doesn't support/agree with decisions we make about the wedding then she doesn't need to feel obligated that she attend. She had expressed interest in being a BM but I was 100% honest and told her that I wanted to be surrounded by my closest friends / family that day. You can always give her some silly job so she feels "included". We asked the She Devil to be an usher and hand out programs at our ceremony. She's included in the big day, but I don't have to deal with her directly. hope this helps!

@melissa that is basically what has happened here she has played the victim to the family and acts as if her actions are perfectly fine. it's a constant victim card so the family is just getting torn apart.

@Ruthie. Are you sure we aren't talking about the same person? Haha. They sound like the exact same.

Lol @melissa apparently this is a common trend. I am so worried that this is going to ruin my relationship w my fiancé it has caused us both so much stress