Sister in Law as center of attention

No one can take advantage of you unless you let them. 10 doz. cookies at midnight -- I would have laughed at her and gone to bed!

Up until that point I was fine with it - we've always gotten along well enough and I would do anything for my brother. It's like as soon as their big even happened she flipped a switch and turned into this completely different person. I keep asking her and my brother if there is anything that I did and supposedly I didn't do anything. I honestly just think she hates that she's no longer the center of attention!

It sounds like she's being highly unreasonable and a downright spoilt brat.

May sure you talk directly with your brother and keep an open line of communication, just as a precaution if she goes the extra mile of lying and attempting to meddle in a family she married into and wasn't born into.

Aside from that, don't talk about wedding stuff with her and make sure you focus on YOUR happy day.

She can stir trouble and pout all she likes, at the end of the day you'll be the one looking stunning with her brother by her side marrying the man she loves.

Best of luck hun. Really hope things look up for you soon.

Also, major props to you for doing so much for your brother's/her wedding. That was an incredibly lovely gesture, even if her cookie demand was out of line. Especially since you made a conscious effort to give them their time before announcing your own engagement. She could learn a lot from you.

She got to be center of attention a year ago and again a month ago. You may be right that she's jealous it is now your turn. Watch out -- she's liable to announce that she's pregnant at your wedding!

My sister said the same thing about announcing a pregnancy! They're about to buy their first home so she's making a big deal out of that for now - which it is! But they're still struggling a little financially and I think they should wait at least a few months longer. They're selling a ton of stuff (practically all their furniture) in order to have grocery money while the big finances are going through - including a couch that our sister was LENDING them. When I reminded her that it was on loan and maybe she could sell a mini fridge that she hasn't used in over a year instead, she told me to stop interfering.

She needs to open up the bible more often and not think of herself so much.

I don't know how to include her so she doesn't get even more ticked at me but still keep her as a very minimal role so she won't ruin my happy love bubble lol. She went dress shopping with me once but refused to go again when I got the dress. And I have asked her to help me make a flower girl tutu for my niece. But she still feels left out and is acting bitter

**Latest update** she's now going around showing EVERYONE a picture of me in my dress and saying how she wished I would have gotten the one she suggested. She even tried showing my FH!!! Luckily he caught on and shoved her phone away when she slid it across the table to him. I asked her to delete it or at least stop showing it because I want my dress to be a surprise. She replied by saying that's a stupid tradition and people had the right to tell me their opinions on my dress and maybe THEY could talk some sense into me! My dress is simple and beautiful and I love it. It fits my personality, my FH is going to love it, my mom actually cried when I got it (sooo out of character), and my ridiculously fashion savvy MODEL sister says that it is beyond perfect for me and the venue.

You need to keep her away from you! She's just a troublemaker and it's going to drive you batty.

My FSIL is the same way. I understand the hurt you are feeling. Just know at the end of the day, you’re the better person. She is not. People like that are suffering inside and they want to induce their misery on everyone else. Even if it’s hard try and ignore her. This is your day and she is simply a guest that is attending your wedding. It disgusts me that people are so selfish…I’m sorry!

Speaking as someone who can be very absent minded, maybe she was so caught up in it all that she doesn't realize you never got a thank you.

Took me about 15 years with my guy to realize that it was NOT a good idea to ask him to pass along thank yous and things like that. He'd just forget!

I once sent a thank you note with my groom and found it in his backpack 3 months later! never did THAT again!

the whole thing may have just gotten lost in the shuffle and excitement. maybe if you just spoke to her somehow. if she really didn't feel you needed a thank you, then write it off as someone who needs to learn some manners.

Wow, what a biotch. Steal her phone and delete the pic. Wtf is wrong with her.

Agree with everything PP have said. Some people have this me me me personality and constantly fish for the situation to be all about them when It is clearly not. Don't worry about her because everyone else in your family knows the priority is with you and your fiance and everything that comes out of her is just noise. You sound like an extremely giving person and you really made an effort to make their wedding day special. Now it is your turn, tell her to step off.

I'm sooo grateful for all the advice and support .... and the reassurance that I'm not the only one who thinks she's being difficult!