****sister conflict****

Double post

Hey Tiffany,

I don't think there's anything to worry about here. You get one day and she gets one day. Be happy for each other and, if you're worried about competition, just don't talk (your) wedding in front of her.

Happy Planning!

I wouldnt sweat it. Yours will be first regardless. If you are worried about it being a competition just keep the wedding talk to a minimum

You get one day, she gets one day. Just be happy for her and don't let it turn into a competition.

You get one day, not one month. Lots of people attend two weddings in a month. Two years ago, we flew cross country twice in one month for weddings. No big deal.

You get one. Not a month. Be happy for her and just move on with your planing

The only possible complication she could have is that OOT guests may be able/willing to travel twice in one month for a wedding. Other than that, I don't really see any issue that should cause conflict with your sister.

You each get your own day, but are there other considerations that are concerning you? Are your parents helping both of you out financially for the wedding? Are you concerned that OOT guests will have to "choose" between" the weddings, as well as overlapping times for showers, bachlorette parties, etc?

July is a popular month for weddings. I've received 3 save the dates for July weddings. The problem is OOT family members may not be able to attend both your weddings. I'm usually on the you get 1 day she gets a day side, but with siblings it gets a little complicated bc half of your guest list is essentially the same, but with a few apart it should be fine.

Ladys im nervous about the guest list. we plan to do everything together as we are eachothers maid of honors. this friday we are going to look at dresses together. i love my sister and i AM HAPPY for her! i just dont want the picking and choosing. between the two of us..

Yeah I don't really understand why your sister would do this. If you guys have OOT guests, they may pick and choose. Even a week between would be much better because people could just take 5 days off and make it a vacation.

Usually the first wedding would get the most attendees, but I know in the older generation getting married before your older sister is a huge no no (I've gotten so much shit for it but my sister doesn't want to get married. What was I supposed to do? Just never get married too?). And I could see people attending hers because she is older.

Has she already finalized her date? If not, you and your family could explain the issue for OOT guests and have her move it a week before. If it's already set in stone, you'll just have to make the best of it and hope OOT guests can attend both.

I wouldn't hold it against her though. I can almost guarantee she didn't even consider that this could have any impact on your wedding.

I don't think there are any problems unless you were planning on taking a really long honeymoon. My brother is best man at a wedding in Michigan the week before my wedding and there's no conflict. One of my BMs brother's is getting married the same day, but still no real conflict as long as she's able to be ready on time.

While I agree with everyone about how you only get one day, as a guest of your family, I would definitely wonder why the weddings were so close.

On the bright side, it can be a lot of fun simultaneously planning weddings. I have a few bridesmaids that are like sisters, that are getting married very shortly after me. It makes for a fun time swapping ideas and enjoying the excitement of planning.

Its true when people say that you are the only one as excited about your wedding, but, it's really cool being excited with someone else that's just as excited about theirs.

Well it is what it is. I would've discussed dates together if I was that close with her. Send your stuff out a little early and people will commit to yours first.

But again, you get one day.

Has she put any money down? Given that you're about 18 months out, can't she pick August or September for her venue? Give people a little more breathing room, especially where you are in each other's weddings?

ONE DAY

You get one day.

OP, you can't tell people how to post or not to post. That's against the Community Guidelines.

My aunt was a bridesmaid in her friend's destination wedding two weeks before her own wedding. It just happened that way.

They made it to each other's weddings. Their mutual guests made it to both weddings.

No harm, no foul. No need to make a mountain out of a mole hill.

This kind of stuff boggles my mind, the obvious you get one day thing aside, why would someone choose a wedding day so close to their siblings in the same year?? Every time I see a post about this I just sit here dumbfounded. You might not be in competition but it sure sounds like your sister is!

I've attended 4 weddings in a month, 2 in the same weekend. It is what it is.