Singles Table?

Personally, I despise them with every fiber of my being. I understand the idea behind it, but I'm an introvert with major anxiety disorder. I'd rather sit with 3 other couples I'm friends with than at a table where I don't know anyone and just feel super awkward and uncomfortable the whole time.

I can’t imagine being stuck at a table, likely with strangers, just because I’m single. Is this seriously a thing?

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree with this. I don't think it's a good idea. Kinda like you are singling them out. It's one of them old school things that people hardly of ever do. If you know your crowd and think they would like it, then go for it. But personally I'd put singles at tables with people they know and like.

That would be a no-go in my book! We plan to seat single people with others who they know and are friends with, even it that means we have an odd number of people at certain tables.

View Quoted Comment It used to be a thing back in the day

This wasn't something that crossed my mind. Don't have a lot of single people but if they happen to be single they will be sitting with people they know.

View Quoted Comment It is in my circle, though it's not something I would ever do

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah it's not something I was thinking of doing, and my wedding is so small anyway that the tables are making themselves in a way. Someone just brought up to me how much they didn't like them, and it occurred to me that I've sat at probably 6 without a second thought

I didn't know this was a thing! Personally, I'm with you and wouldn't mind it -- I think I would just try to make friends at the table. But I could see why some people may think this is Hell is it's purest form LOL.

Since I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't feel super comfortable with it, I would probably try to seat people based off of who they knew rather than if they were single! For example, if I were single, I wouldn't mind sitting at a table with other couples that I knew and were friends with. I would probably rather do that than sit with other random singles -- unless I'm looking to meet someone at your wedding LOL

I've never heard of someone who likes them and none of the weddings I went to had them. We will have a few 20- and 30-something friends and relatives coming who are single but we figure it's best to just seat them with people who have common interests, their siblings, people who went to the same college, etc. so they have something to talk about

View Quoted Comment Haha maybe this is why I didnt mind it, I had this idea that I would meet the love of my life at a wedding like in movies (it didn't happen in the end, I met my FH at a tailgate haha)

View Quoted Comment Yeah my plan is to seat by social group. I don't have any people who truly don't know anyone

I have never heard of this! I like meeting new people and socializing, but I think this would have made me feel like an outcast. I would much rather sit with people I know and enjoy, even if I was the only single person at a table full of couples/families, rather than be ostracized.

Oh that sounds like hell!
We are spending a lot of time planning the seating people will be compatible. We have a very eclectic group of friends and lots of them don’t know each other, so we are considering personalities.
Like - I’m not going to seat my very “earthy” brother with my friends who are very proper because my brother sometimes gets a bit uncouth. His gf usually sets him straight but still. He is a great guy but sometimes he can be a bit much. I will sit him with one of FH friends who is similar and likes to talk so they’ll get along great!

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Oh I'm totally with you! I've met tons of people at weddings who I actually became friends with!

I just imagine making eye contact and 'cheersing' my married friends from across the room while I'm sitting next to Urkel LOL

View Quoted Comment Oh how thoughtful! I was once seated literally at random and our table had nothing in common. Quite a painful dinner. I didn't know anyone and would have appreciated being sat with people who share my interests or personality type or even stage of life

View Quoted Comment So...are people trying to play match maker or is it more like “I don’t know what else to do with you, so I’ll stick you all together?”

View Quoted Comment I think a little of both. Twice it was obviously people trying to set me up with a friend, and they told me so. The rest of the times it was just a collection of singles I guess?? If they were trying to matchmake, they didn't make it known

View Quoted Comment I really hope to avoid that!
A trick that I do sometimes introducing people is to say “Elizabeth, this is my cousin Samantha, she just graduated from State College, didn’t your sister go there a few years ago?” or some statement like that. “Samantha, Elizabeth and I were talking about the Lord of the Rings last week, didn’t you dress up as Gandalf on Halloween when we were 12?” so hopefully we can get people talking if there’s a lull LOL

I have never encountered a singles table in real life. I've read about them and they sound horrific. Just seat guests with others they are compatible with and don't try to play matchmaker or toss them all aside as a group or whatever the agenda is behind this trend.