Single female guest?

When I was single I was invited to weddings with no guest and was fine with it! We are also inviting some women who are single and not allowing a plus one.

It probably is proper etiquette to let all single people bring a guest, but the more wedding planning I do, the less I think you have to abide by every single "rule". Do what works for you. As long as the single people will know someone else, it should be fine.

I went to a few weddings with no guest when I was single and had a great time. I actually liked not having the pressure of finding someone to go with me.

No it isn't a rule.

When I was invited as a single woman I never got an "and guest", I didn't mind at all and never excepted to get an "and guest"

Obviously you can if you want to.

But just giving one to single woman would be sexist, what about the single men?

I agree with Mallory -- it's more appropriate to treat everyone the same. I think your mother's etiquette book is a bit outdated : P

I don't think it is assumed. I think you need to do what works for you and for your numbers. We have only given plus ones to people who have serious partners (and therefore can be specifically named on the invitation), or one person who would be coming from Germany and would not know anybody else.

I guess back in the turn of the century it was inappropriate for a woman to be unescorted. Times have changed, mama!

Thank you, thank you! :-) The singles I am inviting are cousins and close friends that will have family or friends there. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't the only one that thought my Mom had antiquated ideas. I did hear someone say "No ring, no bring". I think that's funny!

I think it would be odd to give all single females a guest but not the men. Definitely an outdated notion. I am a strong believer in "if one can do it, all should be able to". Hence why my blanket ban on children extends to even the bridal party and all my singles are getting guests. Hasn't caused any drama yet...but I still have 30 days to go.

I am absolutely not offering a plus one to anyone that is not at least living together. I told my dad I was doing it this way and he said the same thing as your mom. This is one thing I'm NOT budging on. If I have to cut out family in order to stay within budget, there is no way I'm letting people bring random people I've never met.

We gave anyone in a serious relationship a plus one, but no plus ones to those that don't have a someone. Everyone we are inviting knows one another, so they wont be coming into a place where they know no one.

It def helped with the length of the list!

Our guest list is already out of control because FH has a very big and tight knit family. If a guest- male or female- is not in a significant long-term relationship we are not giving a plus one. It seems to be more the norm to do it that way. A friend of mine was married this January and she did that. No one seemed bothered by it. She did assigned tables and put the young single people together and it worked out great. Edit: I should add that several of the single people knew each other so it wasn't awkward for them.

I also agree if single females DO get a plus one then single men should too...

Im struggling with this whole plus one thing too. I have a cousin who is OOT and never has a SO but all his siblings are either married or in a serious relationship (so obviously they are invited) but for some reason I feel mean not giving him an 'and guest' but he literally is never dating anyone so whats the point and I don't want him to just bring a friend or something that I don't even know. Then I have a slew of single female cousins not in relationships but again some of their siblings are in long term relationships but they aren't living together or married yet.

I got to get over feeling bad or mean, I have this whole "I want everyone to feel equal" thing that is just getting in the way. Ugh. I'm really starting to hate the guest list thing, it was exciting at first, now not so much!

Traditional etiquette says everyone gets a plus one. Everyone at my wedding will get a plus one.

Unless it was a family wedding, I personally would not go without a guest. Like cool a slow song....oh wait I have no one to dance with because I couldn't bring a date.

As long as your single friends will know someone else at the wedding I don't think it is necessary to bring a plus one. Weddings are a great place for your single friends to mingle.

I think the idea of letting someone bring a guest that you don't even know is pretty silly to begin with. most anyone I know who is single probably wouldn't have any problem coming without a date. most everyone will know someone there anyhow.

if someone was so upset about the idea of not having a date enough to bring it up to me, then we could discuss it and see what can be worked out.

but I agree with most everyone, unless there's a ring there's no automatic invite. if they live together chances are they are both invited just because I would know them both.

the only real exception I made to this was my cousin from out of state. I invited him and his girlfriend because I had met her. in his case it was a bit of a stretch, but that's still not a 'and guest' thing, her name is actually on the invite.

if I don't know someone enough to be able to invite them by name, then they won't be invited.