I’m planning my own wedding at the moment (no bridesmaids chosen). I am wondering if I am being silly/childish being disappointed at this situation? Would love to hear how you fellow brides would handle this situation.
My sister in law has picked our other sister in law to be a bridesmaid, but not me. My husband is a groomsmen. This means out of all close family, I am the only one who isn’t on the bridal party - and will be the only family member not in photos, at the bridal table, at the bridal party get-togethers, etc.
I agree a bride should pick whoever she wants, but I can’t help but think the logistics of it hasn’t been thought through. I personally would pick both SILs or none.
These two sister in laws aren’t that close. They have disagreements as both strong personalities - they had a big argument at thanksgiving and didn’t speak for weeks last year. They live close together on the West Coast, whereas we are further away so yes they are closer than myself and the bride, but not by much. The sister in law getting married has also only been on the scene for 2 years (compared to 10 and 12 for myself and the other) so it’s not like there is a long friendship.
At thanksgiving this year there was lots of talk of bridesmaid dresses, suits for the grooms and activities. It felt awkward being the only family member not part of it and just sitting there listening to the conversations.
Do you think I have a right to feel disappointed? I feel like reaching out to her and letting her know how I will feel not being with everyone on the day and leading up to it, as I’m not on the bridal party and suggest maybe I could help/assist where possible in other ways.
