Significant others of wedding party.

I don’t think you can expect people to spend the 48 hours before your wedding with you. That’s a bit much IMO.

View Quoted Comment Thanks but that wasn't really my question. They are all excited about a free vacation. We take trips together yearly so that's not really an issue.

I agree with @Sarah. If they're traveling for the wedding I'm sure they'd want to travel and stay with their significant other.

So where are the bridesmaids staying on the wedding night? Are they supposed to now switch rooms with the significant others?

I don't think you should be requiring your bridal party to stay with you for two nights. Have them make their own travel accommodations and offer to pay for them if you'd like. I would feel weird doing that to my FH and vice versa. They are a couple, so they should travel together. Do you expect them to drive two cars to the destination?

View Quoted Comment They are welcome to stay in the booked rooms that night me and FH will have a place together elsewhere.

I think you need to group your rooms by couples in this case. most couples will want to travel and stay together, even one is participating in the wedding and one not. bach parties aside you should invite SOs to your rehearsal and other pre-wedding events.

We're trying to be as inclusive as possible regarding significant others. Most of our wedding party members are in long term relationships. We also have a small group (3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen), so it is a little easier.
Only the actual wedding party is invited to the rehearsal dinner. They're in charge of their own lodging, so they can arrange that however they want. On the day of, I'll be giving significant others small tasks to help out. This way they still feel included, and don't have to awkwardly stand around with people they don't know while we're getting photos.

Should we just book a big house then? Or maybe just invite the wedding party and if they choose not to come till wedding that's Ok? Again it's only a 2 hour drive, we make day trips to the beach often.

View Quoted Comment The SO's should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. There is no task that can be assigned that makes someone feel included. It will make them feel like an employee.

View Quoted Comment We also have a small party MOH BM and 2 bridesmaids and groomsmen.

View Quoted Comment I wouldn't assign tasks to SOs--just let them hang out, get ready on their own, and show up once photos are done. it's one thing to ask your WP to help out with little things but i wouldn't bring their partners into it.

View Quoted Comment The Rehearsal is being held back at home the weekend before so that's not an issue.

View Quoted Comment I should also probably mention that I'm extremely close with all of the SO's that I'll be asking for help. They've already been involved in helping us plan, and one has gone to several bridal shows with me (she's planning her own wedding, too). I'm not giving orders to a bunch of strangers lol.

View Quoted Comment Ah, ok! that makes it more reasonable. also i am coming at this from the POV of a super shy person who would be mortified to have to help out with a bunch of people i don't know.

View Quoted Comment I say book a house. That's what I'm doing. So my BMS and their significant others can have their own room..if you book one room for the bridesmaids to stay in with you, they have to then move all their stuff to the room with their significant other on the day of the wedding.

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A day trip is a lot different from a long weekend getaway. I don't think it is considerate to separate the wedding party from their SOs/spouses. Rooms should be booked according to couples. Also, as other PPs have mentioned, how does this work logistically with driving there? They will have to take 2 separate cars? I think you need to reconsider the rooming arrangement.

I agree with PP's, you shouldn't be using your nearest and dearest as the unpaid help. Everyone should be included in pre-wedding events, including the SO's.

View Quoted Comment Theres only one couple who wouldnt be coming together And That 1 couple would not have to take 2 separate cars, because he would just ride with us and she would drive seperately. I would get a big house before I booked 6 rooms.

Would everyone want to stay in a big house together? Maybe you should talk to your group... I personally wouldn't want to. When I travel, I like my space.