Shy Fiance..Big Wedding

You should probably just ask him what would make it better.

Not sure how 10 aunts and uncles = 300 guests, but I digress.

I'm sure there's a way to find a happy medium here. Your FH should not be anxiety ridden on his wedding day because you had to invite every person you've ever met. His comfort and feelings should definitely be a priority here.

ETA I agree with Katy, ask your FH what would make him feel better. Maybe he doesn't mind the 300 person guest list but if he does, you should decide together who or what needs to be cut.

Contrary to most of your comments, we created the guest list together. Actually, we have planned the entire thing together and we each have our own "must haves" and are compromising for each other.

I just wanted to do something special and intimate for him/us. We went through the guest list together but he did not want to cut. Actually, i wanted to cut more than he did.

I sure didn't get the help I was wanting. Thanks anyways!

You should give those details to start then. We don't know you and we can only fill in the blanks with what you give.

If you want more specific advice, give more specific details.

As a disclaimer, I can't even really wrap my mind around 300 "close family and friends", nor have I ever seen that in the wild, having done numerous weddings with over 200 guests. What happens with that many people is generally a bunch of small parties and family reunions form. People hang with the people they know, and make no mistake about it; you will not be able to visit with everyone for more than a few seconds. Is that what you want? Because you will clearly be on display instead of part of the party.

OP, if you'd told us more specifics, we could be more helpful.

Do a first look.

Take half of your cocktail hour to be alone together.

Say your vows to each other without a mic.

That's all I got, because there is literally nothing you can do to make a 300 person extravaganza feel intimate.

I took a lot of spotlight moments from the day. Besides the ceremony and my toast, we really only had to thank our guests (which was 1/3 the amount of yours).

During the ceremony, I just looked at H. I never looked at the guests. It was like it was just us there.

He can also go talk to a doctor, if he feels it will be too overwhelming and they may be able to suggest things.

'Say your vows to each other without a mic.'

Oh I'd be pretty disappointed as a guest to not hear the vows! The are my favourite bit.

There really isn't a way to make a wedding of 300 guests feel intimate. I'd feel anxious too with a wedding of that size, and most of the guests would be pretty much strangers to the groom too.

Girl you both did it together so if FH has no problem dont change a damn thing. I am an introvert also although I get nervous around big crowds, when my hubby is with me I am fine, when he is not I suck it up. Also alcohol helps alot especially at events. Not to get drunk at all but to chill me out lol

There’s a lot of negativity going your way, I think it’s really amazing he is okay with having a big wedding like that. Right now I’m struggling with my FH to have a little under 150.


I would say make sure you schedule a few moments alone together the day of. Make sure he knows how grateful you are that he compromised on this huge day for you both.
I hope everything goes well and you have the wedding of your dreams!!