Hey all. We got some really unfortunate news recently. My fiance's father has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and might not make it to our May wedding.
Obviously, we want to have him at our wedding. We will most likely have a courthouse ceremony next month with our parents and siblings.
However, we have already booked our venue, caterer, and DJ for May, and we already paid for my dress which won't be ready in time for the courthouse ceremony. I don't know what to do. I don't want to cancel our original wedding plans since we've already put so much money into it. But I don't want the ceremony his father will be at to just be signing legal documents without the real feel of a wedding. In my mind, we can only have one real wedding ceremony, and it should be the one that his father attends. We could do our reception in May with our original guest list, but would it be strange to ask everyone to fly out for just a reception?
My head is swimming right now but we have to make these decisions as soon as possible. If anyone has any experience with attending or planning something like this, with a reception months after the legal marriage, please let me know.