should there be a set rules for bachelorette/bachelor parties?

Some bachelor/ette parties get totally out of hand, but others are just time spent with the guys/gals. My ideal bachelor party would've been to go whitewater rafting with all of my buddies, and kick back a few beers afterward, but not everyone could afford it. We ended up doing a combined guys and gals party and went to an Irish pub.

Out of respect for the other half, common decency should apply. I really don't think that rules need to be laid out if the person you're marrying is truly the person that you should be marrying.

I agree with JulyBride... It's up to YOU TWO... to decide.

My FH and I have a good understanding that I'm the only woman he's ever gonna look at, lol, so he knows better not to go anywhere... and he's perfectly okay with that! HE feels that looking at other women is disloyal and he said he wouldn't go to a strip club or look at porn even if I was okay with it...

His older brother wanted to pay for him to go to Vegas for his bachelor party, and he turned him down... we're just gonna do fun things with our friends, and stuff. Him with his guys, and me with my girlies!

JulyBride i AGREE WITH U 100%

Tha rules are the exact same rules that have applied the entire relationship. Nothing should happen during a Bachelor/ette party that wouldn't happen any other night out with the guys/girls. Plus the party is really more for your friends to feel like they get one last party with you than it is for you anyway.

Some parties can get out of hand and I have been at Bachelorette parties where the bride to be has left because things were getting really crazy and her friends were out of control.

I haven't had a bachelorette party... probably won't be. I had two bridal showers, 1 hosted by family, 1 hosted by co-workers.

FH is going out with the guys for his "thing" tonight: they're going to a high speed go-kart track, then back to a friend's house (friend's wife and children will be home, they'll be in the home theater downstairs) for some gaming and beer.

FH & I already know where we stand on things. And I agree with Matt, I believe common decency should apply. I don't believe FH would do anything that he knows I would be uncomfortable with and I don't believe he feels any need for a "last fling." In fact, he's been scoffing at the whole "giving up his freedom" thing. Besides, we've lived together, raising my children together, for two years now... we're already essentially married without the legal paperwork to back it. We're not going to disrespect one another.

I have heard some really bad stories from bachelorette/bachelor party. To me it should be time spend with friends hanging out and getting ready for the start of your new life. I don't get how some people end up taking it so far. Why do they think it's their last night of freedom? Just crazy.

I only have one rule (cause I do want him to have a good time)... No part of his body can go IN any part of another woman's body.

My FH was very surprised when I told him that if he and his friends wanted to go to a strip club, I'd be perfectly ok with it. Now, I don't know why anyone would want to go to the one in my city..ick..the girls are not well-kept, and are nasty there, but it's up to him. I did however say, no privately hired strippers. I don't like the idea of it, and it isn't good for anyone, just too many things could go wrong there. He already told his brother he would like to drink, but doesn't want to get sick, so he would like some things in his bachelor party to not revolve solely around drinking. I think they are going golfing, maybe paint balling, and then to a bar to watch UFC fights I think. Seems like it should be a pretty tame day/night!

For mine, I want to go to a spa and have a mani, or some type of beauty treatment, and then head to the martini bar, and then bar hop after that as I've always(!) been the DD when I've ever been to a bar! I've never actually had a drink in a bar! LOL

Bachelor/Bachelorette parties do get out of hand, and I have seen the end result a many times. I think the rules & expectations of the relationship should apply to the bachelor/bachelorette parties also. It's lso a good idea to talk with your spouse and go over what would be inappropriate in their eyes, what would hurt their feelings, etc..Just to be clear, Organizers of said parties should be well aware of what is tolerated and whats not. I really wish I could drilled this into FS 'friends' before his party, there is also a risk of not only the groom getting hurt, but other attendees also. And the organizers should be respectful of other attendees and keep the crazyiness within the not to overboard zone..(still not impressed with FS friends and thier actions at FS party)