Amers
Savvy February 2020

Should our last names be on our invitations?

Amers, on November 8, 2019 at 2:45 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 26

I'm finalizing invitations and they are formatted as follows: Amy & Taylor Together with their families Invite you to their wedding celebration Saturday, February 22, 2020 at 2 o'clock in the afternoon at St John's Lutheran Church City, State Cocktail hour at 5 o'clock in the evening Dinner at...

I'm finalizing invitations and they are formatted as follows:

Amy & Taylor

Together with their families

Invite you to their wedding celebration

Saturday, February 22, 2020

at 2 o'clock in the afternoon

at St John's Lutheran Church

City, State

Cocktail hour

at 5 o'clock in the evening

Dinner

at half past six o'clock in the evening

Wedding Hall

City, State


He and I both come from divorced and remarried families, so we opted to say "families" instead of naming both parents and their spouses. I sent copies to our parents for final approval (and I'm kind of wishing I'd just have sent them to the printer) because each parent has something they would change etc. One of the suggestions was to put our last names at the top of the invitation. Maybe I'm just a naive 24 year old, but I think if people are getting invitations, they should at least know who we are without last names? As you can imagine from the information above, our invitations are already pretty scrunched. I already have anxiety about how claustrophobic they are, but I'm not sure how to change anything to make room. So I really don't want to add in our last names too. Help please! Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks in advance!

26 Comments

  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    We did last names on ours. Funny story: my FH goes by his last name and some of my family are completely unaware of his real first name lol.

    My cousin recently got married and they put their nicknames on the invitations.

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  • Heather
    Devoted April 2020
    Heather ·
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    We were planning on doing our first and middle names on the invitations. We did just our first names on the save the dates. It’s really down to how you feel about it, there’s no wrong way to do it.
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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
    Cassandra7 ·
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    Use first and last names. This is a formal, adult occasion and the invitation should mirror that.

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  • Lauren
    Super September 2019
    Lauren Online ·
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    I put the reception info on the details card.
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  • Sabrina
    Savvy November 2019
    Sabrina ·
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    I've seen it done both ways, I think it really just comes down to personal preference. We opted to do first, middle and last names on our invitations because FH goes by his middle name.

    You aren't going to be able to make everyone happy, so do what you feel is best & call it a day Smiley smile

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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated December 2019
    Elizabeth ·
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    We did not have our last names on the STDs (mostly because they were a picture of us). I really wanted our full (first, middle and last) names to be on the wedding invitations, it was just a weird obsession I had. I love the way our invitations came out. They have all the same information you listed and I do not think they look crowded at all. If you use a service like Mint after you submit your draft someone will review it and make changes for you.

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