Should Married Women Tone Down Their Sexy?

View Quoted Comment I think you missed my point.

You should never compromise WHO YOU ARE.

As a pp said - down with the patriarchy.

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I believe in representing yourself as a married woman and I think a huge aspect of that representation is the way you dress. I'm not saying that once your married you have to dress like a nun, but you also shouldn't dress like your 22 going to club unless your husband is around.

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It's not my job to force someone else to respect my marriage.

How does someone "present themselves as married"? I know people who don't wear wedding rings. How do they present themselves as married?

Plus being married shouldn't be the reason people don't give me attention. If I'm at a bar and someone wants to buy me a drink and I say "no, thanks", it's their job to respect that, no matter the reason I've said no. I shouldn't have to explain that I'm married. "Belonging to" someone else shouldn't be the only reason someone respects my choices.

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I believe that dressing too "sexy" could invite attention and as a married woman, you shouldn't want the attention of anyone other than your husband.

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I think there is a time and place to dress sexy.

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I didn't miss your point, I just down agree with you. To me, it's not about patriarchy, it's about respecting your spouse and presenting yourself as a married person.

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I think you present yourself as a married person by showing that you respect your spouse. That means you don't entertain inappropriate conversations with men, you don't go out on dates with people you know are attracted to you, you don't intentionally wear clothing to try to entice other men, etc. A wedding ring should never be the only thing that says your married, your ora should do that.

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I mean, I intentionally wear clothing because going out in public naked is illegal so we have to wear clothes. Whether it entices men (or anyone for that matter) is their problem, not mine.

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Continue to be authentically you. I wish you much success in your marriage. 👍

I dress how I want to, no matter the relationship status. It’s my body, my clothes.

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I can definitely respect that.

No.. if anything I think most women need to tone up their sexy and keep things interesting lol.

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I say turn it up in the bedroom for sure.

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Yes! 100 % but I also do believe that women shouldn't feel pressure to tone down their regular everyday look because they are married. I won't wear less makeup, stop wearing tight dresses, heels, etc. That makes 0 sense to me and my fiance feels the same way. He thinks men spend the time they should spend showing a woman off, putting her down for being the person that attracted them to begin with.

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I agree that a man should not put a woman down for what attracted him to her in the first place.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. I only wear clothes because it's mandatory. I hate clothes. During the summer I try to wear the least amount as possible. I've always been this way. If after 16.5 years of us being together and us newly married he isn't used to it then idk what to tell him.

View Quoted Comment YES. I kinda find the entire notion of this thread offensive and sexist af. If you're getting married then your future spouse should be well aware of who you are and not only respect it but love it.

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I can totally relate to your hatred for clothing.

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The intention behind this post was to start a healthy discussion around the pressure some women mind feel to be "more modest" once they're married. I think that everyone should do whatever works best for their marriage. No judgment here.

My way of behaving or dressing will not change, marriage or not.