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VIP September 2017

Should I say sorry?

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ShanynL, on September 14, 2017 at 10:03 AM

I used to babysit for a lady and her 3 children, but I have not spoken to her, or her children, in over 2 years. She came up to me yesterday and said she was upset she wasn't invited to the wedding, and she should have been invited. She was really frustrated, but proceeded to say, "I got you a gift even though you did not include me and my family." I am going to write a thank you card for the gift, but do I also say sorry I didn't invite them? Or just leave it at thank you?

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Nicole · on September 14, 2017 at 11:34 AM
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You do not owe her an apology. You did nothing wrong. If you have not spoken to her in 2 years, she should not have expected an invite. And she certainly should not have approached you and questioned you about it like that. I think a thank you note for the gift would be enough. Maybe add something in there about hoping to see her and her kids sometime soon.
If it makes you feel better, I currently work as a nanny and babysitter and I did not invite any of the families I work for. I've been with my full time family for 4 years and a part time one for over 3. I thought about inviting them at first but we didnt have space on the guest list. We kept it to just immediate family and friend that we includes in the bridal party. The families completely understand that we are keeping it small.
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Super August 2018
thyia · on September 14, 2017 at 12:34 PM
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You took care of her family and children for how long exactly? you contributed to her life and she showed how important you were to her.. I do not think you should feel sorry at all for not inviting people that you haven't talked to. I'm not inviting people I do talk to..
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Savvy September 2017
Amanda · on September 14, 2017 at 4:57 PM
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I wouldn't apologize...
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Master October 2016
Zaz · on September 14, 2017 at 5:21 PM
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"Dear (X) Family,

Thank you for thinking of H and I on our wedding day; we'll think of you and the fond times we had whenever we see/use/etc {insert item}! We hope to see you and the children soon!

Love/Sincerely, etc"

Seriously, that's all you need to write. There's no need to acknowledge any hurt feelings, as they are 100% the responsibility of the other party. You did nothing wrong, and have nothing to apologize for. You've graciously accepted the gift they graciously sent, and that's that.

What is it about weddings that bring out the wrong kind of weird in people?
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