Should I say sorry?

I don't think you need to apologize for that. But, if it makes you feel better, you could just say something along the lines of "unfortunately due to budget/space constraints, we are unable to accommodate everyone we want to be there"

ETA: I wouldn't put the above in the actual card. I think the card should be just for thanks. But if you felt like you needed to say something about the invite, I would call her and say the above

Leave it as a thank you.

Absolutely not. It's not her decision to make on who's invited to your wedding. That's ridiculous. Don't feel bad!

Oh goodness, that was really inappropriate and awkward of her. You don't have to apologize for not inviting them, you did nothing wrong. Just thank her for the gift and move on.

Don't say sorry, especially not in the thank you note. Just thank her for the gift and move on. She is being unreasonable and rude.

Don't say sorry at all or in the card. Say thank you for the gift and the well wishes. Sorry she said that- really out of line!

Although it was extremely rude of her to bluntly say those things, I feel like it's best to be a bigger person and say you are sorry, due to space or whatever the guest list was short. That you would have loved for them to have been there. But your like YOUR wedding guest list, YOUR CALL.

How uncomfortable! Honestly, if anyone should apologize, it's her for putting you on the spot like that. I would just send a nice thank you card and not mention the invite.

That was bold of her to say that to you. How awkward that must have been. No, just say thank you for the gift.

She needs to apologize to you for being so damn rude. I would have shoved that gift right back in her face. She can keep the gift, and her shitty attitude. RUD.

That had to be awkward but the truth is you can't invite everyone you come into contact with in your lifetime it's just impossible

I'd just send a thank you note and move on.

First, let's be clear that you've done absolutely nothing wrong here.

Now, I don't believe in apologizing at work when you've done nothing wrong, but in your social life, apologies are always appropriate if they prevent or correct hard feelings with someone you care about maintaining a relationship with, even when you are not at fault for anything.

What she did was rude. She should have sent you the gift and a nice note and left it at that, and she certainly owes you an apology for confronting you in that way. But remember that she wouldn't be so upset if she didn't care about you and consider you an important person in her life (even if your interaction with her has not been recent). Surely that is worth something, at least if you want to maintain good terms with her.

I find it very odd how upset people get over not being invited to weddings. I have relatives I've had very little contact with in over a decade who have expressed to my parents their disbelief over not being invited to my destination wedding. My parents and I were not invited to ANY of their kids' weddings. So I don't understand what the fuss is about.

PREACH, @casey c!!

And said person may apologize for overreacting once you do.

I don't see where or how did y'all have the big falling out so maybe it's just the misunderstanding and you both just need to talk and see what you need to apologize about maybe?

She should apologiize to you for being quite unkind to you by asking you that. What an uncomfortable question to ask someone. Also, people should buy gifts because they want to buy gifts not for something in return. Graciously thank her for the thoughtful gift and leave it at that.

That is rude and presumptuous on her part.

No apologies from you. She should be mounting one, but that won't happen.

Let it go and don't give it another thought.

Regardless if any of you were right or wrong in this situation, her feelings were hurt. Do you feel bad about it? Then feel free to state it, but you're not under any obligation to say anything but "thank you" for the gift.

Please please please do not apologize! Weddings are expensive! People should be more gracious in understanding that. If she has a chip on her shoulder then that is her chip to carry!! A sweet thank you and hope you are well will suffice.

That was way out of line on her part. Pack your bags, because she wants to take you on a guilt trip! I think a simple thank you for the gift is sufficient.