Hello Everyone,
I'm in need of some advice. Sorry for the long post!
My wedding is set for September 17th this year. After trying to get the paperwork from the venue since September last year, I finally received it 2 weeks ago.
1. My parents were discussing having me choose somewhere else to have the wedding. I think the overall price has them thinking "this is so expensive." But the venue itself is only $1000 for both ceremony and reception. Now adding in the deposits, catering, DJ, Photography, and alcohol it's a tad over $5,000. I can't get them to realize this is not 1996 anymore, when they got married. They tried suggesting to rent a big tent or using a fire hall. I was all for the tent option before I found our current venue. Nothing against fire halls either but then we have no place for the ceremony (none of us belong to a church.) Also the quote I received for renting the tent, tables, chairs, etc. was over $3,000.
2. My FIL is terminally ill. About 2 weeks before I got engaged he was told the diagnosis of 2-4 months. April was 4 months and he is still alive (thank God). But we know it could be any day. He told both my Fiancé and I not to change anything. And we wanted to respect his wishes. But now my grandfather is not doing well. The doctors aren't giving him much time.
What do I do?! Scratch the whole wedding idea for something smaller? Our guest list is only 80 people. I can cut it down easily & so far the only thing we've deposited on was the photographer, desserts & of course I have my dress. I honestly can't even tell you if my BM's ordered theirs. I know one hasn't and one was 'going to' last month. No idea on the other 2. That is how poorly this is going for me. Do I try to move it up? It's only 4 months away. Someone please help.