Should i Pay for My Cousin's bm Dress?

Did you ask her budget before you began selecting dresses? I could afford a $500 bridesmaid dress, but that doesn't mean that I want to. I don't think it's our place as brides to judge how people spend their money. I would consider her budget when selecting dresses and tell her what you've chosen. If she doesn't want to buy the dress, she can sit as a guest.

Sounds to me she just wants to wear the dress she picked out. I personally wouldn't buy her dress especially if I knew for a fact she could afford the one I chose. It's your day so you might have to put your foot down and tell her how you feel.

I agree with the post above. The only thing I have to add is did you give instructions on what you wanted the dresses to be? ( Color, fabric, material, length, etc.) If so and her dress in way out of bounds I would just tell her it doesn't fit the feel you are going for. And whatever price the dress is, 99 or 999 that money could be spent toward a dress that matches your bridal party style. That really isn't a valid excuse, send her a few dresses that match that price range but fit your look. If she says no to those, then she is just being difficult.

I would tell her that dress doesn't fall within your guidelines. I would probably find a dress online that does fall within your guidelines and is the same price and send it to her and tell her you like that dress better. You shouldn't have to pay for her dress.

It sounds like you don't want her in that dress because it doesn't match (completely understandable) and she doesn't want to give it up so she's making an excuse. I'd say no. Wear the dress that I picked (if the price on it is reasonable) or don't be in the bridal party. You have to put your foot down or she'll continue to push your limits.

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Girl, the dress she chose is $30. No I didn't ask her budget. She is always in someones wedding and goes all out, and now she wants to be cheap. The dresses aren't over $150. Everyone else has been saving for months. Why does she want to throw me an expensive party, but not spend money on a dress for my wedding but says she will support me? I'm confused.

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Blair, I agree, I really do not want to pay for her dress. I can see if she REALLY could not afford it, but she brags all the time about what she is spending her money on.

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I see your point. However, she sent me a $30 dress on amazon that she wanted and I just can't. I sent the styles to everyone, the fabrics, everything and she came with something totally different.

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Thank you Veronica, I agree.

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Thank you Taylor. I agree. This part of planning my wedding has been the most frustrating.

If she really can afford it herself, I wouldn't buy it for her. Sounds like she's just manipulating you--either to wear a dress she picked, or just to get something for free. Don't let her do it to you. Remind her that she can come as a guest, if she can't get the dress you want her to wear.

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I agree. Thank you Cristy. I really do not want to add something else in my budget. I told my FH yesterday, if I have to pay for her dress, I'm keeping it! Lol

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You should have asked her budget first, period. It's not your business how she spends her money and if she says her budget is $30 for the dress, then you find a dress for $30, that's really all there is to it. If you want her in a dress that's over her budget, pay for it.

Agree 100% with Taylor! She can buy her BM dress or but whatever she wants as a guest, it wouldn’t be fair for you to pay for this specially if she just doesn’t want to pay.

I would probably say, “Sweetie, it’s really important to me that my BMs wear the same dress. If you don’t want to wear it, you can come as a guest. I love you either way! Just let me know what you decide by the end of the week. 😘 “

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SMH where is there to find a $30 BM dress??? She can pay top dollar for every other BM dress for every other wedding she is in, but can't do it for mine? She can splurge on EVERYTHING else, but can't do it this time? Pay for her dress, I think not.

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Thank you Stefanie.

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That is a sweet way of putting it.

1. How does she have 💲for things that you did NOT ask for, but not for the 👗that you want her to wear? 😒

2. What is the total cost (Shipping, taxes, alterations) for the 👗 that she can afford?

3. What is the difference between that abs the style that you want her to wear?

4. Are you willing to cover the remainder?

This is exactly why I didn’t ask my Cousin or her daughter to be a part of my Wedding.

I KNEW that she wouldn’t be able to afford a 👗 for either of them.