Should I invite out of town bridesmaids to my shower?

Yes? They are your bridesmaids... I told my sister to send one to all my FSILs, including one that lives a few states away fully knowing she wouldn't be able to come... it's just a nice gesture.

Really, i don't know why it posted three times.

Invite them

Hi everyone! I wanted to jump on this thread because I have OOT bridesmaids (I'm in FL, one is 3 hours away and one in KY).. My sister is MOH and she's in-state.

So my question is: if someone you're a BM for sent you an invite, along with a letter or phone call saying "I don't expect you to make it," would it possibly hurt your feelings? Maybe make you feel like the bride doesn't think of you as important?

TIA!

ETA: MOH is local

If they're a plane ride away, I was worried it may seem gift grabby? I don't know the right answer, I've been wondering this myself since half my bridesmaids live a plane ride away.

Of course! It never hurts to express that you'd love for them to come but understand if they can't make the trip.

Many of my friends live out of town, too. They will absolutely be extended invites to everything but I also plan on letting them know that I don't expect the world to revolve around my wedding, and that if they choose to just come to one of the events that's fine too (I'm pretty sure some of mine would rather come to the bach party than the wedding anyway!

Absolutely!

Definitely. I think bridesmaids should get invitations to just about everything wedding-related. Just be sure they know you're not pressuring them to make a trip just for the shower.

I would send them an invitation -- absolutely, but I'd also leave a personal note in the invitation telling the OOT BMs that they are in no way obligated to attend because of the distance and travel involved. They'll likely decline, and that's absolutely fine. No hard feelings.