Should I invite out of town bridesmaids to my shower?

I would absolutely send them invitations.

I sent invites to all my bridesmaids for at least one shower--many of them were out of state or several hours away. The ones that could, came, the ones the couldn't, didn't. no hard feelings. but I didn't want to exclude-and I think that is appreciated.

Yes, send them invites. We sent shower invites to out of town guests as well, knowing they likely couldn't attend but wanted them to know they were still included if they wanted to.

Yes of course!!!

Absolutely send them an invitation.

Of course you invite them!

Yes, of course send them invites. Let them decide if they can come or not, don't make the decision for them.

Even if they might not be able to come, they will probably appreciate the sentiment. And hey, they may end up being able to come!

Of course they should be invited!! I have 3 out of town bridesmaids - one is able to come to the shower, two are not. The one that is coming is going to stay with me to limit her expenses.

Definitely send invites! My roommate from college (and BM) lives halfway across the country and used the shower weekend as a time to come back to the east coast and visit with family and friends. You may be surprised by who is able to make it!

I would send an invitation, but I would also include a handwritten note telling them that although I would love to see them if the were able to attend, I, in no way expected that of them. I would reassure them that I thought it was above and beyond anything expected of any OOT bridesmaid and that I was only sending the invitation so they would not feel left out.

Send them an invite! I told my bridesmaids that I absolutely do not need a gift from them. Their support and love is the absolute best gift. Also I let them know it wasn't required, and I totally understood if they can't make it.

Send them! All of my 6 bridesmaids are out of state, as am I (wedding in OK, I live in FL, and I have two bridesmaids in MN and one each in TX, NV, SC, and MA). My MOH drove up from TX, and FH used his airline miles and made sure my sisters flew down from MN.

I didn't expect any of them to come, but it was wonderful.

I invited mine--only one could come but that was fine! i also said no gift required at showers for ALL my BMs, out of town or otherwise, because they've already all contributed a lot in terms of time and support and hosting.

Phew.. I just scared and wondered if I put my out of town close friends on the list to invite when my sister asked for it.. thankfully I did! (Probably from reading it here on WW lol). I'm fairly certain no one is coming from Florida, Connecticut, Georgia, or Texas for a bridal shower in NJ haha.. but it's nice to know you were thought of anyways.

I had invitations sent all of my out-of-town bridesmaids even though I'd talked about it with all of them and knew they wouldn't be able to attend. But I wanted to make sure they still felt included despite not being able to be there.

Yes. I drove 6 hours to a shower for a friend. And my BM and MOH live 4 hours away. If they can come they will, don't exclude them just because you think it will be inconvenient. But also be aware they may not be able to make it

Yeah. My FMIL is doing mines and i told her to do it like a week before so my out of state person can come while she is already here for the wedding

To avoid any hurt feeling you should definitely send them invites.

Duplicate post, whoops.