A little background: My little brother is dating a much older woman. He is 32 and she is 50. The have been dating for about 6 years. To me, he is a grown man. I dont really stress out what my brothers do.
We meet her 3 years ago by accident. He introduce her to my mom as his gf. I was taken back cause i took it as it was not serious. We had suspected he was dating an older woman at the time but he never talked about her.
This past weekend, i asked him about her. Just to make small talk, my brother is a very quiet guy, I asked him questions about his feelings and future towards her. He said he doesn't love her but she loves him. He doesn't want to get married but she does. He pretty much is whatever with her. This really upset me. I don't like knowing hes stringing her along. I know she is a grown women and can leave whenever, but sadly not all women are like that.
We have invited her to certain family parties because we all believe he meant something to her. Though she never comes to visit my parents nor tries. We rarely know anything about this woman, Just things we ask my brother about.
I do know she lives and takes care of her elderly mom. She works at a groceries store and works 6 days a week. For one family party, she had to find someone to switch days with. She doesn't know her day off until a week before.
My intentions of asking him about her had nothing to do about the wedding. I was just making small talk. But all this info has really got me thinking. In a way i don't want her to try to make it to my wedding just to impress my brother. To try to win his heart. Plus I was only inviting her out of respect for him. I am just putting myself in her shoes. I know shes a grown women. My stepedad is much younger than my mom. I just think how she would feel if my stepdad did that to her.
I'm also hoping this will be a big wake up call for him. You never know. But i rarely see or know anything about her. Just need some advice.
