Should i invite my brothers ex?

Hm... I had a situation where I couldn't invite a girl who had helped me go wedding dress shopping because she and one of my "bridesmen" broke up - they'd been together for about 4 years, but this seems even more involved then that if a child is also involved. (You weren't really clear - I think you are saying that their daughter is the flower girl, is that right?) This is a tough one if your family does typically go to their family events. Does your brother go? If he does, then I'd consider inviting at least the ex-wife. I think it also depends on whether your brother really meant what he said about inviting them or if he was just placating you. Also, do you think the little girl will be okay without mom there? :/ I'm not sure how much I can help you here... but I'll bump it back up to the top!

I think you have a year to make this decision. As an ex-wife, I wouldn't be offended if I wasn't invited to my ex's sister's wedding.

If your brother is fine with it- then leave them on the list. But your FH says no- so that alone is reason enough to remove them from the list.

Yea my neice is their doughter. the main reason i am concerning myself with it is they keep asking questions about the wedding like they are expecting an invite. its awkward

Thanks for the imput ladies

If your mom and FH say no I think I might listen. They are there and can read the situation a whole lot better then anyone here can. Your brother might be sayings its ok because he wants you to do what you want.

If her daughter is your flowergirl, definitely invite her too!

Im inviting my brother ex girlfriend granted they were never married and have no kids we have known her since she was 12 so i consider her family plus we are still routing for them to both get there stuff together and get married in the future so shes coming i had even asked her to be a bridesmaid when FH had a ton of groomsmen