Should I have my cousins are bridesmaids?

That was supposed to say as* oops lol

If you've always pictured your wedding with them in it then what's the problem? 2 out of 3 of my bridesmaids live on the other side of the country. One of them I'll have to fly her out here and buy her dress, but I love her so I didn't even second guess it.

Ya thats a good point, how did you ask them to be bridesmaids? Did you just call them? And how are you going to do the dresses? I guess you would just get their measurements order them and then as if they could pay your back?

Well the reason why my family is saying not to do it is that my one cousin isn't the most dependable and tends to leave things to the last minute so their worried about it causing some drama, they think the less ppl the better

I got a really stupid card off of Etsy that says, "I may pee on you" then you open the folds and long story short it asks them to be a bridesmaid. Here's the link because I sound crazy: https://www.etsy.com/listing/169181971/i-might-pee-on-you-will-you-be-my

For their dresses they'll send me their measurements and I'll send them to the seamstress. One will pay me back. The other I already know can't. She's the one we have to pay for her airfare.

If you ask anyone on here they'll almost all tell you the same thing. A BM is only meant to show up on your wedding day in the dress. Just keep that in mind, don't expect any more from them, and just remember they're your cousins who live 6 hours away. They can't go to every party your MOH will plan or every shower.

If you've always imagined having them in your wedding then go for it! Its your big day, make it as you wish

Are you actually close with them? Like have a close relationship? To me that's the only criteria.

If you want them in it, have them in it, one of my bridesmaids lived 1000 miles away and she didnt come to any events other than the wedding. We just bought our dresses from davids bridal which was easy and she could go in at any time to get hers..or order her size online so I didnt have to buy anything.

If you want them in your bridal party, I'd say do it.

They can order their dresses online -- maybe just tell them to buy in advance because size can be a tricky thing to determine online?

If you order your bridesmaids dresses from Davids Bridal, they could order their dresses from their local Davids, and the store would even have it in the computer what you had picked out, so it wouldn't be hard.

Just to offer a different perspective, I decided against asking any OOT relatives or friends to be in the bridal party. I wanted my bridesmaids to be able to attend prewedding events, and go shopping with me, and be able to talk wedding stuff with them and work on DIY projects with me. I know everyone says you shouldn't expect you bridesmaids to do anything but show up in a dress, but I wanted more than that. I wanted my bridesmaids to be with me on the journey of planning, not just show up on the last day. So I asked two local friends who I knew would be able to do those things. Also, OOT guests already have travel expenses, I didn't want to add a bridesmaids dress and whatever else to their expenses. That said, do what's right for you. If you want your cousins in your bridal party and don't mind them missing the prewedding stuff (and willing to risk drama from the one cousin), go for it. There's no right answer, its what you want.