Should i feel guilty for not having a registry?

Don't feel guilty. At first I didn't think I was going to have a registry at all. Now I've decided that we could totally use some new pots and pans and some nicer sheets and dishes. If you already have everything that you need then you don't need one.

Some people do that "in lieu of a gift please donate to X thing" but if you don't want people having to spend any money on you then you don't have to do anything.

I'm not sure if you put on your wedding website or whatever no gifts please but I think the way you've been handling sounds great.

You shouldn't feel guilty at all. You actually did what people should do when they don't need anything, no registry, no cash grab. How refreshing! I only hope others can learn from you.

Don't feel guilty! It's your wedding and your choice. My fiance and I are older and we pretty much have everything we need so we aren't doing that either. And I don't feel comfortable asking people for money lol. Maybe have them donate to your favorite cause or charity in your name. Just an idea

Dont feel guilty. Its not like you said, give us cash instead.

I didnt register but looking back there are so many things i could've upgraded. Towels, sheets, etc. I wish i had registered.

I know the WW philosophy is "don't register and you'll get all cash" but I don't really buy into that. We had a huge registry and got lots off it for my shower, and still got all cash for the wedding, even though we had lived together for over 6 years. That's just the way people do things around here. Not sure what your reasons were for choosing not to register, but I do find it odd to not have one, tbh. In 8 years of living together, there's nothing you've worn out by now that could use an upgrade?

I don't think you should feel guilty for not having one especially because you aren't asking for cash at all or anything. But I also don't think you should complain if you someone does go out and buy you like a pie plate or something. Some people like to give physical gifts or feel its expected at a wedding.

We have a pretty big registry even though we have lived together for three years but all of our stuff is all hand me downs and mixed matched. If you don't need anything new or wouldn't like to upgrade (or even just get a couple of sets of back up sheets and towels for when the ones you have now wear out). Then just keep doing what you're doing

I totally felt pressured for a registry... so we did one. We live together, also, but did need a few things. It was fun and we tried to be budget friendly.

We don't really need much either but I think it will be fun to do. Will keep it small but as others have said, if people must buy us something I'd rather have it be something we will use.

Your feelings are what they are. No one should ever tell someone else how to feel. If you are not comfortable making a registry, don't make one. You do take a bit of a chance with those guests who prefer to give a physical gift. Their taste may not be anywhere near the same as yours.

We don't need much, but I would really like to upgrade sheets and towels etc. So we have one. I will probably take if off of our website after the shower as I really only did it for the shower.

I wouldn't feel guilty at all. Is someone planning a shower for you? If so, you will need to create a registry for this (as a shower should be for boxed gifts, not cash). Otherwise, I wouldn't think twice.

We are not registering and have turned down offers to host a shower for us. No regrets!

There’s definitely nothing wrong with not registering, you’re absolutely not crossing an etiquette lines or anything. My thoughts on the subject are to just have a very small registry so that the handful of guests that insist on buying a physical gift will have somewhere to look. That way at least those people will know what you would like as opposed to just guessing.

First and foremost, you have nothing to feel guilty about.

But, I also felt similarly on that we had everything we needed and was pleasantly surprised at what I found to upgrade. I registered at Target and Amazon and found the “top registry picks” link to be especially helpful. So many practical things I didn’t even think of!

We didn't register either because it didn't make sense (moving out of state in a few months and want to minimize expenses). When people asked, we just said thanks for the nice thought however, we decided it didn't make sense for us to make a registry since we have a lot of big moves coming up. Most people accepted this rather gracefully.

In the end, we actually got cash gifts from the majority and a few other vases etc. We put the majority of the money we received aside to buy needed items once we move/ an extra savings account.

I was on the fence about a registry, but then decided, if someone really wants to buy us something, I should at least have some suggestions on what we could use. For example, more towels, upgraded pots and pans, some new sheets, etc.

I know I appreciate when someone provides a registry, so I know what they may or may not need!

Don't feel guilty. It's your wedding, you shouldn't feel obligated to register for things you don't need.

Don't feel guilty, but do be aware that you might get some random stuff from folks who still prefer to give physical gifts rather than cash. i really didn't want to register because it felt weird to me, but in the end we did what many PPs have suggested--went for a smallish registry to upgrade some essentials like towels and sheets and some kitchen items we really wanted.

Set up a site for people to donate to a charity you like. I'm not having registry either. Dont feel guilty about it. I think some people just get really excited to look at couples' registeries so are let down when you don't have one. But id be let down if you didn't have cake, doesnt mean you should go buy one for me

I wouldn't feel bad, unless you want a shower. Then you can make one just for the shower, which 20 people is a less than 50 item registry. That's fairly small.

Otherwise turn down showers and suggest a couples bbq or something if they insist.

And I have a huge registry, because we need (and want) stuff in addition to having 2 showers and 2 receptions.

As a guest, I love the registry. It makes my life so much easier. I don't have to worry if I'm giving an appropriate amount or do they have any interest in their invitation being framed. I just click some buttons and go.
I'm not trying to guilt you out more. But in truth, the registry is more for your guests than it is for you. I do realize it can be uncomfortable to ask for things, though. It is a little easier if you see it as a favor to your guests. (I have a full kitchen, with no dents in my stainless steel pans, no chips in my full set of matching china, a Kitchenaid and more. I also understand the hunt for what I need.)