Should i change our decor in secret?

After reading all the other comments you made, I think you guys need to talk. It’s both of your weddings. I don’t agree at all that you’re a doormat for having less guests, that’s just ridiculous. Some people have less family. But him making all the decisions about the colors, venue, food etc really should be stuff you decide together. You don’t want to start the marriage off feeling like you can’t compromise and talk things out, so i would go to him and talk. Also I would never ever change anything secretly

It would look better without those giant feathers they dont blend in the arrangement at all

View Quoted Comment Absolutely true. My fiancé’s family is HUGE compared to mine thats not his fault.

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"Utter nonsense" based on the idea of equality in marriage. We each got half of the invitations; how we used them was up to each of us. It worked very well; each of us decided our own priorities about who we wanted to invite And was both equal and fair.

Maybe try toning down the feathers so they aren’t over the top. Make them a little more subtle and explain to him that you really love the addition and since he chose everything else, can he just give you this one piece. Because it is your day too and if you really love them try and compromise with maybe some smaller ones or just one or two and see if he’ll agree.

Personally I love the feathers too!! They're so fun and add a little extra. The floral hoops are amazing!! Men don't always get design the same way we do and they sometimes can't see the bigger picture. If the feathers go with the overall look and feel of your wedding, convince him to agree to add them!!! if they're not something you really care about, let them go. it's great that he's been so involved and has input though!