Should I cancel my wedding?

FutureMrsHicks- thanks I will definitely try to push it all to the side...I gotta let the stress of it go too...

Karen- yes she is picking about everything. I would think it would make people happy we decided to do a wedding. I would also think people wouldn't care I changed a few things. I guess she told people.

It seems to be you're putting too much weight on your mother's happiness which is affecting your happiness. It'd be different if this was about something else, but it's your wedding.

Jess08- yes I guess that is what I am doing. I love my mom but something has gotta give. She never had a wedding so maybe she feels as if this is hers in a way? Idk..

SoonToBeMrsC I see what you are saying so going forward you should just cut people off when they start talking negatively. Its your wedding and that is that. If you dont like what people are saying just walk away. You are almost there, it will be over and then your new life begins with your favorite man : ) Good luck!

Here's what probably happened. She goes complaining to her friends/family members saying, "Can you BELIEVE that she changed X, Y, and Z?! Isn't that ridiculous/wasteful/immature?" And her friends probably went, "Uhhh...I guess?" Then she told you that THEY were complaining. Sure, okay, Mom!

Nothing you do or say is going to make her happy, so don't talk about the wedding to her. If she brings stuff up, change the subject. If she doesn't get the hint, say, "I don't want to discuss this." If she still doesn't let up, leave the room. Don't defend yourself or give her the crying fight that she seems to want. It'll only escalate things and leave you more upset.

I bet that the vast marjority of your guests are VERY excited and happy for you. Don't let mom getcha down.

Marlina- I can't wait to be married thanks.

Karen- you are probably right. Everytime I talk to people for example my dad he is fine with everything but she says different. I need to learn to do that. From now on I am just gonna relax and if she wants to keep saying stuff whatever im not gonna worry about it. It is mine & fh day and we deserve happiness.

The only reason you should cancel your wedding at this point is if you are no longer sure about the marriage. It's 3 weeks away and I assume just about paid in full at this point with YOUR hard earned money. Why on Earth would you cancel it now?

I am definitely sure about marrying him yes it is paid in full except for a few small things. Guess I'll stick it out and just ignore negative people.

You know girly I think it is just a momma thing! I'm the oldest of my siblings and I am the first to leave her house and get married - in short- in her words- lol the first to leave her! Hahaha it is empty nest syndrome - mother's by nature have the need to control things - to protect their babies! Do not build up so much anger toward your mother - she has done alot for you i'm sure and boy does those mamas know how to lay on guilt. But at the end of the day you know you would not want to get married without her there.

You need to toughen up and let her say her piece and then just do what you want anyways - this is what I had learn and still deal with but honestly at some point parents need to let go - they raised us and they need to trust the daughter(son) they raised! They know when the s*** hits the fan or we get sick or we just need to gossip- momma is the first one we call.

Soontobehismrs- It could be. I am the baby out of my siblings so maybe she could be having a hard time letting go because of that? Also mom & I are the closest out of my siblings. Yeah you're right she has done a whole lot for me. I just wish if it's her expressing the "loss" she feels she is going to have she would do it in a different way. She really isn't losing anything though she is gaining a son & hopefully grandchildren someday soon. I have tried my best to make her feel special on my day. She hinted about dad & her walking me down the aisle instead of just dad so i agreed that'd be a good way to honor both parents. I am giving my bouquet to her instead of tossing it so she can have a special keepsake. She has been involved in a lot of the planning. I don't know how else i can make her feel better.

I definitely agree with what others have said: stop telling your mom about the details of your wedding. It's a lesson I had to learn myself. My mom wasn't quite as dramatic as all that, but she initially questioned every detail of my plans. I learned that I'd have to either defend my every decision or stop telling her these things. In my case, it worked out better to explain myself to her (it gets tiresome, let me tell ya), but it sounds more like your mom just doesn't need all the info you're giving her. If she asks about plans, give her an evasive answer like "it hasn't been decided yet" or "I think I'm getting close to a decision". If she still pressures you for details, either tell her you have no details to give her or make it clear that it's your choice and she can just be pleasantly surprised on the day of. I've had to use those tactics with other people and I know it's hard, but it's worked out alright for me. I'm sorry to hear that your mom's so dramatic, I hope this helps

Ashley- thank you From now on i am definitely not discussing plans with anyone but FH.. i'm not even gonna bring the wedding up at all.. it's too much pointless stress & drama.. i have last minute details to worry about instead of crazy stuff like that.. i know FH didn't care if i changed my hairpiece & etc.. idk why anyone else would. lol