Should I cancel my wedding?

1st ten thousand text messages holy moly you must have some crazy muscle in your thumbs!

You're almost there, if you think this is what is best for you then don't cancel it for other people.

It's your wedding your decision no one else ... well FH but besides the two of you no one else!

When I change a few things... I said if they wanna keep complaining then how about they can not bother to show up...this is suppose to be happy but how can it when u have constant complainers... also if they really feel that way how about they say it instead of being two faced about it... I am soooooo tired of every day for months people complaining and talking behind my back... I really feel now even though invitations have been sent I want to cancel it and us go to jutsice of the peace by ourself.... she even threw in my face how FH family is cold towards me and how they don't like me.... she hsd the nerve to say she has had the most stress since the beginning of this...I said I think NOT I have been the one with the most stress cause of crap like this.....should I cancel it?

It's not about what anyone else thinks! Do you love your future Hubby? Do you two share everything and trust each other no matter what? Is he your best friend and you are his? That's what a marriage is all about, if this describes your relationship with FH then tell your mom to shove it! If it doesn't, sit down and work the problems out before you get married, too many marriages end up in divorce these days. Good luck! (:

Without knowing your mother, from your POV she sounds like the problem, but how you do your wedding is your business no one elses. Is she contributing to it? Maybe she just wants the control of the wedding and you're not giving it to her.

Do you think your have problems in your relationship? Pre-maritial counseling would help even if you don't have issues. At least a counselor is a third party who could validate or invalidate her "opinion". I always thought the problem in my mother daughter relationship was me, but the counselor said she tries to guilt me into what she wants.

Umm if you count our google chats, my FH and I text about 10K messages a month.... (we are long distance too) so I am not sure what the issue is there.

Every couple has problems, some have many insignificant ones, and some have a few major problems. Again, not sure if that is an issue. If it is, then get marriage counseling.

You are allowed to change your mind. I changed my mind several times over the planning process. You get new ideas, try things to see if they work or not, etc.

I am not sure why this would all amount to you needing to cancel your wedding. I understand your mom may be a little stressed, so just ease off of her? Plan your wedding, invite your guests, and the people who love and support you will be there. People always complain and have something to say. Such is life.

Soontobemrsk- LOL we text constantly so they must be ...I don't know what to do..I just want a happy day not a sad one...

I think that depends on how important a big wedding is to you. Will you regret it in a few years if you dont have the big wedding now? To some like me, its really important. To some, its not. thats the question you really gotta ask yourself. And if it is that important to you, then you will need to learn to let what they say slide down your back and power forward with your wedding plans. Im attempting to do the same at the moment. Hang in there

I say...you're close enough...and you've put enough money into it to not cancel it. Who cares what they say? If they don't like it they can just NOT come. And if it ends up being just you and FH...then at least the two most important people are there and it matters. No one else's opinion matters. You've made an effort...now it's time to shut everyone else out and enjoy the what? 3 weeks? You have left with your FH. Forget them.

Let's get this straight. You think you should cancel your wedding because your moms not happy? I need to know before I respond.

STBMrsC, this is a discussion with your FH & you. We all are going thru a lot during the wedding planning journey & sometimes we may feel overwhelmed. But at the end of the day, the decisions is up to you & him only. Good luck

I say... stop talking about your wedding PERIOD. Just make your plans, do what you have to do and move forward. Whoever does not like it, including your mom, then too bad.

PurpleSun- because this has happened for months.... it isn't just a new thing... all this has been said n said for a long time I am finally tired of it...I can't take no more... I just wanna be happy...

Jess08- she has helped with some planning but hasn't paid for anything she even said a few weeks ago it is my wedding so change what I want now she says all this I don't get it.... i changed just my dad walking me down the aisle to both of them for her...FH & I had problems a long time ago but they have been so much better the last yr...

Shaina- yes I love him a lot I can't picture life without him. Yes that describes us.. thanks a lot..

Tell her she doesn't have to come. Have the wedding you want with the people who love and support you.

If you are happy just do it for yourself forget what everyone else is saying or thinking

Sounds to me like YOUR MOM is the one having issues with your wedding for whatever reason. Why on earth would people she know complain about the change of venue or your dress and hairpiece? Why would they even know you had switched dresses?

Chill out and ignore your mother. You're less than a month from the wedding so why would you cancel it? Everything is already in place!

Unless she has REAL concerns about your marriage, don't consider canceling. It sounds like she's grasping at straws to bring up wedding attire.

SoontobeMrs.C people will always talk. Decide to be happy and ignore what they have to say. My motto is, if they are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone. BE HAPPY and do what you want and give them something to talk about!!

Your mom's name isn't Nadia, is it? There was a mom on TK a while back complaining about her daughter and FSIL. She mentioned a lot of texting between the two of them.

Oh Wow @Karen. I hope that is not her mom

Thanks for all the replies ladies..

Jen- it is just the fact that no matter what I say she always brings the whole thing up over n over again...says mean stuff and says no one is happy with what we decided to do...

Angel- one of the reasons we changed to the church wedding was to have the memory and the pics... I was really excited at first but the more drama the more it seems to kill my excitement... I do need to learn to let what they say not bother me...

Marlina- We actually weren't talking about it...it came up out of the blue...kinda weird how it happened...

AlmostMrsG-yes we are very close to it. A lot of money has been spent. To be honest I would rather them not come if it is gonna break out into a huge battle. I fear drama on the day of too.

Karen- nope that's not my mom's name.