Should i cancel my wedding? Please help!

You already know what you want to do. I'd cancel. You should never marry a man who treats you this way and you do not want your kids to grow up thinking its ok to treat a woman that way, either.

Once you're married, he may even turn angry and eventually treat the kids how he treats you. Loving someone simply isn't enough to make a marriage work. Marriage is teamwork, its sacrifice, its choosing each other on a daily basis and building each other up. His anger issues need to be controlled and unfortunately there isn't anything you can do to help him with this.

My best friend married a man like him, and after 3 months of marriage, he cheated and was very abusive to his wife. They have filed for divorce, 2 weeks before their one year wedding anniversary.

Please do not stay with someone because you are comfortable or afraid to leave, you need to provide the best for your kids and growing up in a toxic household is not. I'm so sorry you are going through this, OP.

You deserve better. More importantly, your children deserve better. They deserve to not be raised to believe this is an acceptable way to treat women. If you have daughters, would you want them to find the same type of man as your fiance and put up with his abuse? And they will find a man just like him. That's the pattern they will know. If you have sons, would you want them to grow up to be like FH and abuse their girlfriends/wives?

Put a stop to this for your entire family.

You know what you have to do. It will be hard. Maybe look into therapy as to why you accept this behavior from someone for so long. Its unhealthy for not only you, but your children. Please don't go forward with this.

I'd cancel. Canceling is cheaper than a divorce. I'm sorry you're going through this

No amount of money down or lost is worth going through with something you know is not right and you do not want. Your friends and family will all understand and support you. Please do what is best for you and your children!

Hey, Amanda- I'm so sorry that you're going through this. What a terrible situation for you and your children!

Based on what you've explained in your post, I really don't think you should marry this man. A lot of previous responders have mentioned that it's a toxic situation for you and for your children. Marriage is about so much more than love. Forget the money.

People are not likely to change after marriage, and people who do are the exception. If your relationship has always been rocky, it will continue to be that way. If he's verbally abusive, that won't stop. Please forget about the logistics of invitations and deposits you can reach out to your family and friends for help with handling that. Your priority needs to be you and your children.

Sending you all the strength, my dear.

If you are on here typing that out then you know the answer. Run. Run now. Do not marry someone who abuses you. It will not change. It will not get better.

You. Deserve. Happiness.

You and your children deserve to feel safe, loved, and happy, and you should feel empowered to do whatever it takes to make sure you feel that way.

I'm so glad to hear you're already speaking to a counselor. Is that couples counseling, or are you also talking to someone on your own, or with your kids but without your partner? I really encourage you to talk to someone on your own. There are also so many free and confidential counseling hotlines out there that do absolutely amazing work, such as 7 Cups of Tea, the National Domestic Violence Hotline and website, Mental Health America, and The Hope Line - and if you feel you or someone else is in danger you should call 911 immediately. I'm going to email you directly too so we can keep talking.

It sounds like you've already made up your mind, I'd cancel.

You have done what you need to do to try to fix the relationship and it's just not working - nothing is improving. There's no shame in that. You can't hold out on hope, expecting that things will get better after you're married or that the therapy will finally start working. You shouldn't marry someone who expects you to act a certain way or who abuses you in any capacity.

It will be hard, but you need to do what's best for not only you, but for your kids.

Good luck! I am so sorry that you're going through this. You really do deserve better!

I would cancel girl. You nor your children deserve that kind of life. It is not fair to them to have to deal with that and you deserve the world along with your kids. It may be hard but girl its time to walk away!