Should i be upset?

What does your FH say about it?

I second what Kiwi said...does he want this or is this more what his groomsmen/friends want?

Following suit, what does your FH say? I can see both sides of it. Part of me would want to be really upset, the other part understanding. I think the only thing you can do is express your feelings to your FH and be honest, not angry.

I can understand being upset. I can also see letting him go IF AND ONLY IF he brainstormed with you how the kids would be taken care of in his absence. To just expect you to watch all the kids AND put together a whole wedding weekend is not reasonable.

I can't get behind this thought process of "letting him" do anything. It's weird that people think they need to give their SO permission to do things. I agree that I would be frustrated about the last minute notice, however, I also think it's important to recognize that this is a one time opportunity, he doesn't get to have a bachelor party ever again (hopefully.) I would ask if there's anyone else that he can ask to help with childcare since you're being left to tie up loose ends on your own.

You have every right to feel how you feel. It may be worthwhile to sit down, and have a discussion about your feelings of feeling overwhelmed.

As far as the letter, the way I see it is you can either choose to let go and allow him to do things in his own way, or you can grapple with being in control of everything. That’s entirely up to you how you handle it at this point. The fact is he has until the day of the wedding to write a letter. Is this how you would do it? Quite possibly not, but this may be his way.

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Maybe ask him to find a sitter and tell him you're going to go out with your friends. IDK, you're in a tough spot. It's a lot of stress especially if it's the night before the wedding.

I was referring to the commenter who said "I can understand being upset. I can also see letting him go IF AND ONLY IF..."

Anyway, I understand that you had a different opinion, I was only offering my insight. You asked if you should be upset, that was the whole point of your post, but it seems that you already have your mind made up on how you want to handle this situation.

I think it’s good sound advice... Quite possibly you could work together to find a sitter to help with childcare while you work to get things ready. Find a solution that is in both of your favors.